Backdated large csa payment - does it affect benefit

Teressa

hi my ex refused to pay csa and ignored everything so after 12 years they have sold his house to get the csa backdated debt and gave me some of what was owed which is £14k but we claim tax credits and help with rent but i am now not sure if and what it affects, as heard it doesnt affect nothing but i cant see how it cant with it being a big amount

jacklink

sad that a person has lost their home and can no longer provide a home for their child/ren and at the end of the day in sure you managed

Teressa

sad but had choice, refused any help for 12 years and refused when i offered for him to pay £20 a week seeing as his earnings is over £45k a year he could of paid that, so he got what was coming, refusing to see his daughter or provide for her, not all men are hard done by when comes to paying for kids, alot choose not too

jfdi

CHILD maintenance doesn't affect means-tested benefits (eg Housing & Tax Credits) NOW, but it used to - so I think you'll need to get the figures for period & amount pw/pcm on paper & then approach HMRC & your Council & see what they say!

Dates were April 10 for both Income Support & H Ben, I think - probably the same for Tax Credits.

whitegoods_engineer

Teressa wrote: »

sad but had choice, refused any help for 12 years and refused when i offered for him to pay £20 a week seeing as his earnings is over £45k a year he could of paid that, so he got what was coming, refusing to see his daughter or provide for her, not all men are hard done by when comes to paying for kids, alot choose not too

It's could HAVE paid that!!!

Drives me mad when people think that Could've or Could have is Could OF!!!

jacklink

some how i think you saying £20 a week was enough for you when according to you he was on about £900 a week wages doesnt seem right.

but hey ho, you have control of his daughter and their relationship for life

take care x

Almost-free

jacklink, I think it's sad when someone uses prejudice from their own situation to criticise someone else- when knowing so little about their situation.

I have been on both sides of this dilemma - ex who refused to pay any maintenance to our two beautiful children and has chosen to only see them a handful of times of year ( despite pleas from me and them,)

Then being hit with my second husband having to pay large amounts to his ex wife for their two children, despite the fact she married a very wealthy man and was boasting that she was using the money for beauty treatments. We, meanwhile, were struggling, because I was working , paying childcare for our child, but the CSA in their wisdom worked out that I could pay for ALL our expenses including mortgage ( they didn't take into account me losing almost half my wage to childcare !) so that he could pay the maximum out of his wage to his ex.

She meanwhile alienated the kids against him and he didn't see them for almost 8 years, despite a fortune spent in the courts . Causing us further financial distress.

Fast forward to now ,and the kids have grown up, their step-father has passed leaving their mother a millionaire. She squandered the money on moving to Kenya and marrying a boy half her age- who promptly took her for every penny. They see her for what she is and are back in a loving relationship with their father.
Karma's a b*tch!

There are millions of unique stories out there in the horrible land of divorce. We should all remember that OUR experience is an individual one, and not use it to bash others!

Teressa

jacklink wrote: »

some how i think you saying £20 a week was enough for you when according to you he was on about £900 a week wages doesnt seem right.

but hey ho, you have control of his daughter and their relationship for life

take care x

because he is the tightest b*stard that i know!! i used to have to provide a receipt when i was with him if i even spent 90pence!! so to me that was good of me offering just 20 a week and he could of bought asda vouchers or just nappies if he didnt want to hand over cash, and excuse me he refuses to see my daughter his words when i asked him about paying 20 a week "im not giving that b*tch f all" and she was 1 and a half at the time!! annoys me on this forum as people get so judgemental when they clearly in some situation themselves, i am also on the other side as i pay for csa for my partners 3 kids and i dont want to pay it, but i have no choice so i pay it! Not as if he had no choice in the matter, this case has been open 13 years and refused to pay a penny and quit work to avoid it and changed his name and opened businesses in his wifes name to avoid any csa but it eventually caught up with him, and they gave him the option to pay debt but he said no so they gave him notice and through courts to sell his house and he then secured as many debts as he could ring up to try and stop me getting any money, but the csa managed to sell the house and get me some of the money, so dont want to hear all crap i am asking a question on here for advice not some crap comments

shoe*diva79

Teressa wrote: »

because he is the tightest b*stard that i know!! i used to have to provide a receipt when i was with him if i even spent 90pence!! so to me that was good of me offering just 20 a week and he could of bought asda vouchers or just nappies if he didnt want to hand over cash, and excuse me he refuses to see my daughter his words when i asked him about paying 20 a week "im not giving that b*tch f all" and she was 1 and a half at the time!! annoys me on this forum as people get so judgemental when they clearly in some situation themselves, i am also on the other side as i pay for csa for my partners 3 kids and i dont want to pay it, but i have no choice so i pay it! Not as if he had no choice in the matter, this case has been open 13 years and refused to pay a penny and quit work to avoid it and changed his name and opened businesses in his wifes name to avoid any csa but it eventually caught up with him, and they gave him the option to pay debt but he said no so they gave him notice and through courts to sell his house and he then secured as many debts as he could ring up to try and stop me getting any money, but the csa managed to sell the house and get me some of the money, so dont want to hear all crap i am asking a question on here for advice not some crap comments

Well said. Its nice to hear of an absent parent who has fought and fought not to be responsible for their children banged to rights.

Not all absent parents are 'deadbeats' but those that are get everything they deserve.

Teressa

I used to turn up with my daughter sometimes when she was young hoping that seeing her face to face he would feel something and want to see her but there is just nothing with him, he cares for no one, his family dont bother with him neither and he doesnt care about that, i just think its pathetic the extremes he has gone too to avoid paying for csa, even borrowed a mates details to work and lived under that name too, as his mate moved abroad years ago and dont know how it can be done but he worked under his NI and name etc and he claimed JSA under his proper name to avoid paying nothing, he opened a business let it go bust and got that debt secured against the house, got loans secured against house not to pay, such extremes i dont understand how someone could and would go so far just not to pay for their child, Pity as she missed out for many years without a dad, and i tried hard to get him to see her and at the end of the day i dont see why he shouldnt pay something towards his daughter, when i did csa i didnt have the choice as back then they threatened me with losing 20% of income support if i didnt give his details so i did it as we struggled already, i havent chased the csa for about 5 years as they have been rubbish throughout, closed the case without my permission etc but finally someone got hold of it and worked hard to get things done and they did it, so after so many years i never thought i would have something good to say about csa as 13 years is a long time to wait to get some money, and now i am working part time and get help with tax credits and rent help i just dont know whether after so long its nice to get this money but i am not sure if it stops me getting the help with rent etc

jacklink

well lucky all of you, im of a generation when you got nothing for your kids, child benefit and that was it, my ex choose not to see his kids, and never bothered with their birthdays or Christmas, there was no such thing as CSA i just had to get on with it, there was no more money, so dont tell me i no nothing, i lived in poverty, with no csa and we managed, so please dont tell me you cant manage