Extraordinarily Loyal Is The Elite

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Witch_Hazel wrote: »

Anyway nite nite elite, hopefully be in a better place again pretty soon. X

Hope things look up for you and ds soon WH. Take care xx

tazmac25

karlie88 wrote: »

Has anyone been watching Secret Life of Students on Channel 4?

Just caught up with 2 episodes today on 4oD.

:rotfl:

i watched the first one - omg what have i let myself in for - i start uni in september !!!!
does it get any better or worse???

Nannylala

Witch_Hazel wrote: »

Anyway nite nite elite, hopefully be in a better place again pretty soon. X

Sending you a Big Nannylala hug x

fairclaire

Witch_Hazel wrote: »

He cant get passed these online tests, he is very black and white in his thought process.

He did 12 days work placement with M&S, he was given a glowing feedback report. Being autistic he takes things very literal, M&S said if they had a job he would have been given it, so when 5 vacancies arose he expected to be given one because of what was said before hand.

Just having a sh*tty day as he has been rejected once again from Asda.

When he is applying for jobs, make sure that you check if the company he is applying with has a guaranteed interview scheme. A lot of big companies have this and most, if not all, public sector employers have it as well. They will vary from place to place but I know a lot bypass the initial stages and the candidate can go straight to the interview stage. His autism would qualify him to use these schemes.
My OH did have a job for a short time inbetween leaving the army and now and he used this scheme. Sadly he couldn't cope with the job, but he did get it.
You might already know all this, but it's useful information for others if you do.

I'm very sad to hear that he's having such problems finding work. The statistics for Austistic people out of work are quite shocking. A very sad state of affairs. I worry often for my sons future with regards to things like jobs etc, and we're a long way off that. I have everything crossed that he can find something soon.

ETA securing a job using these schemes also offers an extra layer of protection should there be any problems during employment. Disciplinary matters, adjustments to working conditions, and that sort of thing. The employer is recognising the needs of a disabled person by offering them employment through these schemes, it means that they're more likely to cater a adequately for them as well.

karlie88

bexter7 wrote: »

Is it any good Karlie?;)

Pretty much my 1st year at uni.

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karlie88

silvercar wrote: »

I watched it and was quite shocked. Is that what my baby gets upto at uni?

tazmac25 wrote: »

i watched the first one - omg what have i let myself in for - i start uni in september !!!!
does it get any better or worse???

:rotfl:

karlie88

bubbsy malone was it you who said that your GP's first question for an ailment is 'how long have you had it?'

tazmac25

karlie88 wrote: »

:rotfl:

karlie you are not filling me with confidence !!!! LOL
now im really pleased not to be in halls and stopping at home - mature student !

76rosie

Witch_Hazel wrote: »

Anyway nite nite elite, hopefully be in a better place again pretty soon. X

Hello witch hazel.

Hope you feel better tomorrow.

I know it all feels very personal right now. But I think it's more about the world at the moment. It seems like the working market is really tough right now.

My oh is a dead end zero hour contract job with hardly any hours. He has applied for loads of jobs and never gets interviews.

May be the work experience could turn into a job recognise your son s strengths.

Nenen

Sarahdol75 wrote: »

Good morning everyone.

What a morning I have had already.

DS1 has missed the bus on purpose, we had an argument last night over buying clothes!!!!!!! He wants all expensive designer stuff he is 14, we only bought him new tracksuit bottoms about 3 weeks ago and the are half way up his leg already. So I said could we just buy him some cheap ones from sports soccer for him to mess around in for over the summer holidays, and he has gone up the wall at me. Starts ranting and raving at us so I took his phone off him last night.

So this morning he spends ages in the shower, comes down messes around with his breakfast then sits at the table saying he not going to school until he gets his phone back. I tell him he not getting it until he starts behaving and not ranting at us. He walks out, but has missed the bus.

So now I have got to take him the 6 miles to school in the car, but not before I take my other DS to school and then walk the dog, I have phoned the school and told them the argument and why he has done it and they laughed and said what a !!!!!! he is lol.

Kids dont you just love/hate them, and I got to put up with this for 6 weeks, I am going to be pulling my hair out this year.

Please tell me it gets better.

It does get better - honestly! My three are now almost 29, 27 and 24 and they are all lovely, kind and helpful people who I would like even if they weren't my children! They've been a tower of strength since my dh has been ill and have offered so much kindness and support - very different to the grunts and strops of a few years ago! I can still remember a few hairy teenage moments and the difficulty of standing by what I said in the face of their hormone fuelled hostility!

I agree totally with Fairclaire - keep calm (as much as you possibly can) and stick to your guns as consistently as is humanly possible. It sounds as if you are doing a great job of that already.

Regarding designer clothes and shoes - when mine were teenagers I gave them an amount of money for all their basic 'needs' e.g. enough to buy a reasonable pair of trainers, joggers, whatever, and told them that if they wanted a designer brand then they had to put the rest of the money towards it. They all had part-time jobs from age 13 (started with paper rounds) and had to save for the luxuries!

As a pp said, when they have to pay towards 'designer' it is amazing how much designer stuff they manage without and they take much better care of the things they have contributed to too!

PS - I would be inclined to tell ds that if he pulls the missing the bus stunt again you will be deducting your petrol money from any clothes you might buy and/or extend the time you retain his phone!