Vindictive Reference Leads to Job Offer removed

shortcrust

I don't see that anyone has done anything wrong. The referee gave factual information and the employer didn't like the sound of it. End of in my book. Move on and don't use the referee again.

Sponge

What they said may have been technically the truth, but it sounds like it may not have been the whole truth. It seems to me the person providing the reference wasn't in possession of all of the facts and therefore shouldn't have mentioned anything before discussing it with the person involved, at least giving them the heads-up so they can tackle the matter directly during the application process.

The devil is in the detail and to leave a potential employer with an incorrect impression of an applicant isn't right and not what a reference should do.

Did you not know the person you asked to provide a reference had reported you to Child Services? Is it not something that's recorded anyway? Recorded somewhere such employers can access, without a referee revealing it? Will it come back to haunt you again, or can you just not use that person as a referee again? If the former, then is there anything you can do to make sure the account is recorded accurately, i.e. there was no wrong-doing?

Minoush01 wrote: »

The injury was an accident caused by my child dropping her weight whilst I was holding her wrist as she had a tantrum on a walk by a very busy main road. I took her straight to hospital where the nurses said it was a really common child injury ...

Something similar happened to my first (of 3) child, who is now 8. We were told the same thing. A simple, innocent swing inbetween the hands of two parents can cause the injury. In our case, it may have been caused by placing him in his child seat (putting arms through straps) as that's when he started to hold his arm.

We also went to A&E and I will admit I felt a little paranoid. But the staff were great and it went no further. We weren't made to feel like child abusers and it went no further than receiving simple safety advice, e.g. be careful, but it happens.