Keeping child off school because it's their birthday!

Gra76

My boss takes a day off when it's his birthday. He also takes a day off when it's his wifes birthday. He takes a day off when it's either of his kids birthdays as well. It's up to him, he's using up holiday days to do it, but if he told me he was taking his kids out of school for their birthdays I'd think he was an idiot.

deva

Daughters school allows pupils to go in own clothes on their birthday (or day nearest to it), thought it was strange at first but it really works: child gets special attention and enjoys being with friends, school gets to keep their attendance % up!

supersaver2

alias*alibi wrote: »

Thanks peter333 and ska lover; some people on this thread and other MSE threads should be embarrassed and ashamed of their finger pointing and snide remarks. At the end of the day we all have to wipe our own backsides so they need to get a life. Sad individuals who are actually no better than bullies.

PS my daughter loves super noodles, pot noodles and processed ham and is probably healthier, fitter and slimmer than most kids of the masses on here; not that they would ever admit that of course.

What a bizarre post, how can people on here 'admit' your daughter is fitter or slimmer than their children unless they know you?!

monkeychops

ska_lover wrote: »

That is cool, really. It doesn't make me break a sweat when others don't agree with my view point - I don't need approval.

In your OP you did ask what other people think, but seemingly the only opinion you want to hear, is one agreeing with you.

If it makes you happy when people back you up, and click that little ''thanks'' button - then that is great

I think the other parent knew what was being insinuated there, hence the reaction you got.

How old are you Ska Lover? Perhaps you are taking a day off school?


Maybe if the parent had asked the school if the child could have the day off for their birthday (not sure if the school were likely to agree) but to lie and say they were sick!!! How can you agree with that? That's teaching them that if you want a day off for whatever reason it's your right and you can take it oh and you can also lie to get it.

ska_lover wrote: »

You would think so, but the figures of days lost through sickness say otherwise - and you may be in the minority for being so honest

Well I think there is a good chance this child will grow up to be someone who takes days off sick at a whim and think there is nothing wrong with it.

moomoomama27 wrote: »

Wouldn't know, I don't watch soaps! I think it's ok to debate and share opinions, sometimes the people pointing the finger at the so called baddies, are really no better!

Yes, I thought this was a forum were subjects were debated and I thought it was ok to have different views. Some of the people who are accusing the OP to be judgemental and supposedly not having a life should take a look at their own judgemental posts.

notanewuser

FBaby wrote: »

My view is that birthdays are totally over-rated. It'a another reason to turn things around to make it me, me, me and taking a day off for it only emphasises this attitude.

Having lost a baby sibling, birthdays were always celebrated in my family, as not all babies/children see their birthdays.

However, with both parents teaching and my birthday being mid-term, I never got a day off for my birthday. My mum and suster's birthdays were always in the holidays so they were always off.

I was at work for my 21st birthday but so C's then have always taken the day off. DH does too.

DD's birthday is 2 days before mine, so if we don't end up homeschooling she'll be at school on her birthday (unless it's a weekend). :-(

alias*alibi

JIL wrote: »

If a teacher chose to take the day off that fell on a school day on their own birthday there would be uproar. Especially from the parents.

For crying out loud; that's because they are an adult and in a paid profession and if you choose that profession then you adhere to the T&C's. Comparing that to a child taking a day off school is ridiculous.

alias*alibi

supersaver2 wrote: »

What a bizarre post, how can people on here 'admit' your daughter is fitter or slimmer than their children unless they know you?!

No more bizarre than most of the rants on here to be fair. My point was my child eats the 'bad' things as dictated by the perfect parents on here but is perfectly fit and healthy and slim. My post was directed to a post talking about food; another area where the so called perfect parents feel it's their god given right to berate those deemed 'beneath' then.

ska_lover

monkeychops wrote: »

How old are you Ska Lover? Perhaps you are taking a day off school?


Maybe if the parent had asked the school if the child could have the day off for their birthday (not sure if the school were likely to agree) but to lie and say they were sick!!! How can you agree with that? That's teaching them that if you want a day off for whatever reason it's your right and you can take it oh and you can also lie to get it.


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I neither agree, nor disagree with it - you know why? Because it is none of our business.

duchy

mrcow wrote: »

Are you a teacher?

No and at the time I was a TA- same rules as teachers applied though. No leave in term time.

I had asked to start after my holiday as I expected it to be an issue but the school wanted me sooner so asked me to start before -and to my amazement paid me for the four days too.

Billie-S

As a teacher friend told me once, it depends largely on the child, and how they are doing at school, and how easy it is for them to catch up.

I kept my two off for their birthday sometimes - not always - but sometimes. Like another poster said earlier on here, I would sometimes keep them off just for the afternoon. They only missed one lesson, and as long as we cleared it with the the teacher in question, it was fine. The teachers and admin staff would shout 'enjoy your birthday tomorrow,' knowing they would not be in, because we asked them the week before if we could keep them off.

And yes, I did keep them off if they had a tummy bug or a headache, and sometimes I would keep them off to take them to the beach! So in addition to their birthdays, I would keep them off for another 4 or 5 additional days in the year too, AND we took them out for a week in late September to go abroad.

And you know what? They both got As and Bs in their A levels, and are both now at university, doing academic degrees, (and not what some people call 'soft' degrees!) They have both travelled around Europe with their University friends, they both have jobs, they both do voluntary work, and they are both well-balanced, intelligent, and sensible adults.

Oh, and when they were growing up, we gave them ready meals sometimes, when I couldn't be bothered to cook from scratch, and takeaways twice a month too. AND we let them read The Sun (which we also buy ourselves once or twice a week still.) And...... we watch tacky reality tv too!

I just don't think that a child losing a few days a year from school, and maybe one whole week, is going to do them any harm. And I have that first hand from the school. Although, this was a few years ago; mine left in 2010 and 2011. I can't vouch for what the attitude is now.