What would you do?

TheScarletPixie

I'm sorry this is just a bit of a rant, my sil to be has invited friends of hers to our wedding without even asking us and I'm fuming!!!!

Our wedding is a very small, intimate affair with close friends and family only - firstly we are limited financially, secondly we are limited on space as the reception is at our home and thirdly we don't even know these people!!!

What would you do? - I've told my oh he has to speak to her and tell her politely that she can't bring them if she's funny about it, then it's her own doing and quite frankly tough.

BakerBoy

I would do as you have done, no question. My oh's family are very much of the argumentative sort, I struggle to keep up with who doesn't speak to who and I've told my sil that I have no interest in family politics, life's too short.

Si_Clist

Maybe explain the space limitation and ask her who she'd like you to drop from your list in order to accommodate her friends?

She should get over herself.

Trixsie1989

Uninvite her see how she likes it! Xxx

Slayerx

I would do as you've already done.

I would never consider inviting friends to a relatives wedding even if they were mutual friends.

Pinzy

Disgraceful behaviour! Sounds like you've done the right thing. Be prepared to have word if OH doesn't get the point across.

Floss

I would ask her for her friends' phone numbers so you can ring them to uninvite them and tell them she has unfortunately put you in this position by taking it upon herself to extend her invitation to people you do not know.

74jax

Si_Clist wrote: »

Maybe explain the space limitation and ask her who she'd like you to drop from your list in order to accommodate her friends?

She should get over herself.

I wouldn't do that as she may just say 'oooo drop such and such'.... :rotfl:

Floss wrote: »

I would ask her for her friends' phone numbers so you can ring them to uninvite them and tell them she has unfortunately put you in this position by taking it upon herself to extend her invitation to people you do not know.

i wouldn't do that either, you didn't invite her so you don't have to uninvite her.

How did it come up that she has invited these people? Has she told you? if not then I would do nothing until she tells you.

When she does tell you, I'd just say something like unfortunately you don't know these people and they're not invited. I wouldn't say it's down to cost or the venue size etc as it isn't. The fact is you odn't know them or want them there, you don't have to make excuses.

Floss

Floss wrote: »

I would ask her for her friends' phone numbers so you can ring them to uninvite them and tell them she has unfortunately put you in this position by taking it upon herself to extend her invitation to people you do not know.

74jax wrote: »

i wouldn't do that either, you didn't invite her so you don't have to uninvite her.....

It gets the point across to SiL2B's friends that she had no right to invite...and makes her look a bit of a t!t too.

fed_up_and_stressed

It should be Sister in Law to be who uninvites them, it/'s her who has created the mess inthe first place.

tulip28

I know how you feel. My SIL invited her friends to our engagement party - when she told me I told her straight - you need to un-invite them. That really is the height of rudeness.

She was sulking because she then had to deal with the embarrassment of un-inviting them - but she will never do it again!

Stand your ground!
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