Childcare worker's behaviour outside work?

ellies_angel

IrishRose12 wrote: »

Ermm no offence but the nursery can't do anything about it if it happened OUTSIDE the workplace and she was with her own child. And if they did so something about it, then I hope the girl in question tells them where to go!

Yes she was out of order, but who isn't at some time??

Not to be rude but those of us who work in education/childcare sector don't have to be as good as gold every minute of the day. We are allowed to let of steam and we are allowed to live our own lives outside of the job.
As for the girl who was visiting nurseries and saw something she didn't like and cancelled just because she saw a worker, We are also allowed to smoke, drink, we are allowed to curse, and we are allowed to say whatever we want to our own children.

We do have our own lives outside of the workplace, and our actions shouldn't reflect on our workplace. If it was inside school then yes, but in our own, free personal time we can dance up and down the street naked if we wanted to!
Just because this is how this girl behaved to your friend, does not mean that she is like this when she is in work. What most parents need to realise that 98% of the time we have a mask on and are being nice because we HAVE to, not because we want to. Once we cross the doors of that workplace, we can behave and treat our children as we see fit.

If you live in Scotland you HAVE to register with the SSSC. and there is a code of conduct which covers you both inside and outside of working hours!

duchy

I'm not sure I agree with you ellies...... Like many other jobs teachers and childcare workers whether you like it are not are expected by employers to adhere to a reasonable standard of behaviour. If you were in your local paper for getting arrested for been drunk and disorderly in a public place and screaming obscenities at passer bys -would you honestly expect to keep your job ? Even if the case didn't get to court and you were merely cautioned ?

I used to work in a high school -and one day the group I was working with commented they had seen one of the classroom assistants who lived locally go into the local village pub at lunchtime and come out hours later- and get into her car and drive off. Even though this was a group of "naughty kids" they all were very disapproving -and by their comments had lost respect for her despite me pointing out that pubs serve soft drinks too-they clearly believed she had been drinking and driving. She definitely had more issues dealing with them after that because they had lost respect for her. (FWIW she probably *was* drinking from what I knew about her even though I presented the kids with an alternative scenario)

I do agree that if you want to scream obscenities at your own children in the privacy of your own home that is your business (even if it makes you a rubbish parent)- but only a fool would do so in public and not expect to be judged or find SS knocking on their door. Those who work in education and childcare are formally educated in the impact adult behaviour can have on children -and will be judged to a higher standard because they are known to have that knowledge and the consequences on children treated that way.

If I owned a nursery and i was losing business because one of my staff had brought my business into disrepute and people didn't want their children around them I'd have a good reason to start the disciplinary process and get rid of them .......but that is no different to the office worker who is fired for bringing another type of commercial business into disrepute by their actions outside of work.
You may think you can do what you like with no consequence outside of work but in many professions where service user/customer interaction is involved -it simply isn't the case.

paulineb_2

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

Are you laughing at the quote or the person? I don't think it is very kind to laugh at someone for making a mistake . If that is not the case here, then I apologise.

To be honest. I don't think the person who said the word atom should have had their post quoted back and the word atom highlighted in huge bold letters.

If someone is Irish, I can see how Adam/atom, could sound very similar.

venetianlagoon

Ellies is quoting an earlier post her bit at the bottom agrees with you.

paulineb_2

She's had difficulty using the quote function it would seem.

duchy

venetianlagoon wrote: »

Ellies is quoting an earlier post her bit at the bottom agrees with you.

Ah yes- the end quote went walkabout by the looks of it - apologies to Ellies- comments directed to the poster you quoted. I did think the last line seemed a bit out of context .

daisiegg

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

Are you laughing at the quote or the person? I don't think it is very kind to laugh at someone for making a mistake . If that is not the case here, then I apologise.

I don't think the reactions were so much because she made a mistake,but the fact that after it being pointed out, she stuck doggedly to it and claimed it was a regional variation...had she just said 'oh how funny, I have been saying it wrong all these years, silly me!' no more probably would have been said about it.

duchy

paulineb wrote: »

To be honest. I don't think the person who said the word atom should have had their post quoted back and the word atom highlighted in huge bold letters.

If someone is Irish, I can see how Adam/atom, could sound very similar.

I can too ....and I'm half Irish. There have been many times I've had the "what did you say" moment when with my Irish cousins when what it sounded like to my English raised ears and what was actually said were very different !!

Buzzybee90

paulineb wrote: »

To be honest. I don't think the person who said the word atom should have had their post quoted back and the word atom highlighted in huge bold letters.

If someone is Irish, I can see how Adam/atom, could sound very similar.

Why not? It was only highlighted in that way because half their post was already in bold.

It's funny - it makes no sense - everyone makes these silly mistakes but why do we want people to go on making the same ones...

Don't know me from atom makes absolutely no sense, I can see how it sounds similar but that's not really the point.

Wouldn't you find it funny is someone kept saying "don't look a gift w-h-o-r-e in the mouth"

:rotfl:

seven-day-weekend

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

Why not? It was only highlighted in that way because half their post was already in bold.

It's funny - it makes no sense - everyone makes these silly mistakes but why do we want people to go on making the same ones...

Don't know me from atom makes absolutely no sense, I can see how it sounds similar but that's not really the point.

Wouldn't you find it funny is someone kept saying "don't look a gift w-h-o-r-e in the mouth"

:rotfl:

I'd just quietly correct them. I wouldn't laugh at them.