right to see the kids

dazrs

My ex is making it really awkward to my kids, we split 18 months ago she move over 120 miles away so not exactly up the road, I agreed to set maintenance as I dont earn loads with traveling expenses it prob a bout 20 %. I have 2 young boys that I adore it really upset me when they moved. I try and see them once a fortnight at least I either go by train, or drive and fetch them. Any way in June she met someone which was fair enough as our marriage was over, by september he moved in I werent to impressed tbh, but she said it wont effect me seeing kids, so I was still going up by train or fetching them in the car, as you can imagine was awkward for me, but for sake of the boys I got on with it. Around christmas time she want me to come up next day and take them I wanted to see them on xmas, so I shoot up there after xmas dinner and spent xmas afternoon evening, then came back boxing day with them. I then started going to see boys, and her bf daughter was stoping over aswell. I now found out she pregnant which I werent to impressed with but her life, my 5 yr old was confused as he thought I was going to be a dad again so soon put him straight lol. I have now ask when I can see them by train. She since told me she dont want me at house as her bf cant see his daughter when im there, bearing in mind she only lives 10 miles away. I have to pay more maintenance if im only having them once a month. Im really up set as I cant afford to travel all that way twice a month she knows that if I met her half way I have to give her fuel money well it still 80 miles so a 3rd for her. I use to go by train as it hell of alot cheaper. I try and ring my kids daily im lucky if I get to chat to them twice a week if im lucky she makes any excuse, says go to bed at 6, when she knows i dont get home till 6. I got my eldest a tablet so he could use skype he only 5 but knows how to use it and she has now passworded, his tablet so he cant use it to skype. I really dont know what my rights are as she def using kids against me, im pretty certain he living there whilst she claiming benefits. I did pay for a solicitor cost £150 there werent that helpful, im not sure what I can do now.

Caz3121

Probably worth rereading the responses you had when you posted last year. There is some good advice in the responses
https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4389015

GeraldineA

You don't have the right to insist on spending time in your ex partner's new home. It is tough that they've moved away and made it more difficult and expensive to see your children, but you can't dictate to your ex how she lives her life.

Are there other areas you can cut back in order to be able to afford the petrol to collect your children twice a month? People are really helpful on here about budgeting. If you work out all your outgoings and income, then post a statement of affairs, I'm sure you will be given advice to help budget for this expense.

dazrs

Sorry for some reason my phone aint best on internet you right I did post been on a few forums and cant remember from a year ago this has only happen nr Christmas as we did have a agreement going so I check back. I did expendure thing with cab and solicitor, they couldnt believe how well I managed on my salary. I hardly ever go out, dont drink, dont have sky, not in any clubs, have a cheap phone contract, I usually end up selling things end of the month, just to spend on my kids. I work 42 hours a week.

jacklink

i dont think anyone will of told you but seeing as she was the one who moved so far away then she should be paying half the travel costs, and if she really loves her children then she should be helping maintain a relationship between them and their father and contributing toward travel costs. also you can get a reduction in csa because of travel costs

take care

help4help2013

more info here

http://www.dad.info/divorce-and-separation/fathers-rights-and-law/fathers-rights-to-see-their-children-law-in-the-uk