Help..Child Support Advice

declutterqueen

Hi,
Hoping to get some help please.
I am the PWC and I have 2 children 12 and 15. I haven't had and child support from the children's father for years.CSA was a nightmare and I eventually gave up.

He keeps telling me he has no money and can not give anything towards up keep. He tells me a sob story every time, like him and partner are splitting up he is paying all the bills, work is slow and hasn't worked for months! which are all lies.

His situation is.. his partner has created a situation where he can avoid paying child support. He lives in a house which he owns with his partner, they don't have any children, when I applied for CSA he stopped working and his partner started a business and employed him paying him 100 pound a week. so CSA said he should pay 5 a week.
His partner works for another company and is director of this company he works for- the one they have created, he told me she pulls 250 a week out for herself and he gets paid 100. His lifestyle - he has 2-3 holidays a year he has various vehicles and even runs a rally car, he is out most weekends, I know how he is doing it as he has said the 250 she gets he has.. so she pays the tax on it then gives it to him. CSA told me he isn't doing anything wrong, if she chooses to do this. I cancelled my claim for 5 a week as he was openly taking the Pee out of me and the kids, he walks about in lovely clothes while I struggle to put shoes on my kids feet.

What I would like help with is.. if I re apply to the CSA do they look at cases differently now? Have the rules changed?
What about Child maintenance services? is that the new CSA?

He also does a lot of cash in hand and he sells puppies as well, I know he would just say that it is all hers.
Morals of some people... I do not understand.
As for contact its when he can fit them in around his work and hobbies.. I am getting very frustrated, I can never plan anything when its ment to be his weekend as it changes... I feel there is nothing I can do.
Any help would be gladly received.
Thanks

FBaby

There probably is little you can do and you would probably be more at peace of mind accepting it. Unfortunately, there are some loopholes in the system and he has found them and seems happy to use it. They are both pathetic people and anyone would feel much more sorry for them than you.

Your children are older now and should start to understand what is going on. He is happy now and probably thinks he is clever. He won't be smiling so much when he one day needs the support of his children and they will him that they don't have the time or money to help him whilst flying off on lovely holidays and sending him a postcard.

He is his own enemy and will pay a much higher price than you are paying right now without csa.

ps: I haven't received a penny from my ex for our children for years and I too have got every sob stories possible. I have long given up although in his case, he really is strapped for money, and even though it is the result of poor decision, he considers that they are not his financial priority as I can afford to suport them alone.

declutterqueen

Thanks for your reply, Do you think it is worth applying again..? if anything for the inconvenience of them both to dig out the companies records?
Feel bad for the kids, if i didn't support them then id get done for neglect ... Just not fair is it.

FBaby

Not it's not fair, but many things in life are not, at least that's how i look at it! I personally think the chance of getting anything out of the system that doesn't support much in these situation, and out of a father who clearly doesn't want to pay is very low and not worth the stress and frustration that comes with mentally gearing yourself up for trying again, but I don't know how much your consideration is driven by morals or desperation for more cash.

How do your children deal with it all? At their age I assume they know something about what is going on? However it affects them would also determined what I would choose to do.

justontime

I would apply again. You have nothing to lose and if you closed the case last time your application will be on the new system. It can't do any harm to try, even if you only get a small amount it will be better than nothing. Let us know how you get on.

declutterqueen

Thanks For your Replies.. will let you know what happens :-)