Should pre-nups be encouraged?

Seanymph

Interesting that the singles and second marrieds think it's a great idea and those on their first marriage don't.

They'll learn.

N1AK

I'm conflicted between believing that a couple willing to sign a pre-nup should be allowed to do so and expected to follow it and disliking the idea that people are getting married when they are that worried about the partner or not willing to share their money. Went with undecided in the end, though I probably lean towards allowing pre-nups with some restrictions.

N1AK

Seanymph wrote: »

Interesting that the singles and second marrieds think it's a great idea and those on their first marriage don't.

They'll learn.

Interesting how you could mis-read it that way The groups are single, married (not just first marriages) and divorced.

It is interesting that the trend is that way but as generally married people were once single it implies that either single people who believe in pre-nups are less likely to get married, that people who don't believe in pre-nups are less likely to get divorced or that many single people change their view once they get married, and married people often change their view if they get divorced.

TBagpuss

I think the issue of whether a pre-nup is appropriate depends on the circumstances of the marriage- if you marry young, then it's likely that any financial assets will be built up together. If you marry later in life, you will each have built up your own assets, you may have dependents, and so you've more to lose (at least financially) if things go wrong.

I don't really see it as any different from any other kind of insurance. You hope for the best, plan for the worst. If you never need it, then that's great - you've wasted a few hundred pounds and spent some time discussing attitudes towards money, and financial issues in your marriage. If you do need it, then you potentially sae £1,000s,and huge amounts of stress..