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milocat

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lilmissmup

Sorry things aren't good, are you working at all or is that not happening now?

Whens your 20 week scan? I had mine Wednesday and looks like I am having a girlie!!! Although she was a bit shy so won't buy loads of dresses!

milocat

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milocat

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lilmissmup

Use it towards whatever has the highest APR hun!

I don't think you are pathetic hun, you are pregnant and have been under a lot of stress for a long time!

I have a favourite name but not sure if OH will agree, am doing a list of potential names.

kittycatfan

Hi milocat have read your whole diary congrats on baby , i feel like you as i never have enough money coming in to pay what needs to go out and its very depressing but hopefully your oh will soon get good job and thatll take alot of pressure of you good luck with it all hun

milocat

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pickle_me

milocat wrote: »

oh has turned around and announced he doesn't want to be in debt when the baby comes... I'm not sure what to make of that, like is he joking? There is no way that this is going to get cleared in the next five months.

These people aren't my family they're his, and it's my debt and this is so rubbish.

That's great - he doesn't want to be in debt - but what is he actually doing about it? He should be working every hour he can, working several jobs if he has to. You say it's your debt but he's living in your house rent- and mortgage-free, and I notice you've paid off his Wonga loan. And you're having his baby! He should be moving heaven and earth to provide for you both but from your posts it doesn't sound as if he is much use, either in terms of earning power or even by way of emotional support. Forgive me, milocat, I'm not having a go at you but you always sound so alone with all these worries when you should be tackling them as a team.

In terms of what to pay off first, have you used the snowball calculator?

Big hug sweetheart, I hope things pick up for you soon :kisses3:

milocat

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pickle_me

milocat wrote: »

is it worth it? post travel i have about £50 a week from it.

In a word, no.

I started to read your post, got about halfway down and was thinking, probably best to stick it out as long as you can just to earn a bit before you have the baby and can't earn anything. Clean the fridge out, make it clear you will never do it again and if it ever gets into a state like that again, you're off.

Then I read the rest of your post, and re-read the earlier bit, and changed my mind. The clincher for me is the chain-smoking, to be honest - I hate cigarette smoke at the best of times and it's not just you you have to think about, it's your baby. £50 a week is not worth poisoning your baby's lungs.

Plus the son sounds vile :eek:

Can you get a cleaning job elsewhere? Anything else that would bring in a bit of cash until the baby comes?

Let's see if another one of these brings you a bit more good luck :kisses3: