Broke and dumped

SadGirl

Everything is a mess. All the financial worries I have, now my partner has decided to dump me. I've been a nightmare to live with. I don't even want to live with me. I've lost all want to carry on. Sorry for a dismal post. Just had to vent. I can't even try anymore. I've taken the day off work, so even less money. Mortgage won't get paid, and I don't care.

Shineyhappy

Oh honey!

Big HUGS for you!! I am really sorry you got dumped. Is it a split you wanted or do you think there is a chance of you two sorting things out?

I hope things work out for you soon

Lucy1982_2

Sweetheart.

This hasn't been easy for you has it. Did he know about yuor debts?

On the money front. Have you posted an up to date SoA so we can see how you are getting on.

Thinking of you x

southernscouser

Look at it on the plus side.

Seeing as though you weren't with me you've clearly been settling for second best. Now you don't have to!

hur575

do not be sad sadgirl? Plenty fish in the sea but please do not worry yourself too much, in fact relations can put more strain in you. Trust me you will appreciate your single life more. Just take one day at a time and do not have I do not care attitude rest for today but think hard to sort your debt, they will be a light at the end of tunnel


Best of luck

LookingAhead

Oh sadgirl - I'm sorry.

Allow yourself today (and possibly tomorrow) to cry, scream, punch pillows - drink wine...all that stuff. You can't pretend to be 'OK' - so don't try.

But you must pick yourself up after that...I know you don't care now about the mortgage - but you will. That's your one priority right now. everything else can be dealt with as and when but you must do what needs to be done to keep your home.

Awww, big hugs darling.

Lucy1982_2

southernscouser wrote: »

Look at it on the plus side.

Seeing as though you weren't with me you've clearly been settling for second best. Now you don't have to!

:rotfl:

I think we all have to settle for second best now we have met you!!

SadGirl

I didn't want to split no. Says he doesn't think he's in love with me anymore. I don't blame him really. I don't think there's much chance of any reconciliation. He didn't know the extent of my debt, I could never tell him. He would probably have dumped me sooner if I did. As for posting my soa, I don't think there is any more help for me. I've done everything I can. I hardly eat, I don't do 'shopping'. I can't save anymore than I am trying to. I just want to disappear and leave it all behind.

SadGirl

Southern scouser - Think I'll avoid men like the plague for a while. No offence.

newlywed

Have you tried CCCS or Payplan for any debt advice?

Lucy1982_2

Awww honey.

You will get through this. I went through a very nasty split with my ex fiancee about 3 years ago and I took some time out for me. Maybe this is what you need to do. Keep posting here so that you don't feel alone, and remember it's ok to feel all the emotions you do (in fact when I went through it I wanted to become and aid worker in Africa!!!)

But try to eat something, as there is no point making yourself ill. Do you have anyone you can go to that knows everything?

x