First Wedding Anniversary

Faith177

Sorry girls this is going to be a rant

Me and OH both have an entire week off for our first anniversary and his birthday two days later in April. I have been trying to arrange something to do but on a very very tight budget as we are possibly going to Paris in March for my birthday though OH hasn't booked anything yet or even applied for his stupid passport to my knowledge (I'm not even meant to know but my mum told me).

Anyway last night he was looking at concerts as we have a ticketmaster voucher to use. He saw that Jeff Dunham is playing in Birmingham on our anniversary. I said its a long way to go just for that can't we go to the London show instead. His response was Oh we'll be up there anyway visiting my mum!

Apparently his mum wants to spend his birthday with him (seeing as she did SFA for his 30th i find this hard to believe) but also wants him there for his brothers 26th which is on the 26th. Her reason for this is because our wedding ruined his brothers birthday last year as no-one paid him any attention! This is the same brother who REFUSED to be an usher as he doesn't like attention! !!!!!!

So this means I have to spend not only my first anniversary with MIL who quickly frankly I loath as she is a nightmare (some of you may remember my rants about her before) we will have to be there for 4-5 days staying at hers which means either sleeping on her front room floor in a sleeping bag or sleeping on the sofa that entire time.

I am so mad we hardly spend any time together as OH lives 120 miles away due to work and is only back 1 night a week. I just wanted a nice week just us two.

Christ this makes me sound so petty but I hope that some of you will understand. At the moment I'm so tempted to cancel my holiday request and say due to my new responsibilities at work I can't go.

kazwookie

Oh if you feel that strongly about it all, I would cancel the holiday, let OH go to his mother's for the birthdays, and stop at home by yourself, and have a pampering session with your female friends.

Faith177

kazwookie wrote: »

Oh if you feel that strongly about it all, I would cancel the holiday, let OH go to his mother's for the birthdays, and stop at home by yourself, and have a pampering session with your female friends.

you do not know how tempting that sounds :rotfl:

Tashatutuw

If you know you are just going to be miserable for the entire time why torture yourself? If OH is going to play up to his Mothers demands (you are a married couple now and should be allowed to spend your time as you wish) then I would do exactly that, cancel your holiday request and spend the week enjoying time with your female friends doing fun stuff at home. Maybe you being 'forced' to stay at home might open his eyes - consider saying you can only get some of the time off now and not all of it and see what he says?

lottie3000

I think this sounds like a complete nightmare, I agree with what Tashatutuw says, say you can only get some of the time off now and see what he says. Does your OH know how you feel about your MIL?

Stephb1986_2

I'd cancel the holiday too and go to work, what is the point in spending hard earned holidays with your MIL!! I would be furious too.

MEN!

Steph xx

Faith177

lottie3000 wrote: »

I think this sounds like a complete nightmare, I agree with what Tashatutuw says, say you can only get some of the time off now and see what he says. Does your OH know how you feel about your MIL?

No I have always kept my feelings to myself to save him any upset. I have always been civilised and nice to her even when she has had me on the verge of tears.

He idolises his mum and she can do no wrong in his eyes. She is the only parent he has left

Fuzzy_Duck

I'd be annoyed too! I agree with everyone else that you shouldn't go and find something else to do. He could visit his mother and have a related birthday celebration with her the week after surely.

Faith177

Fuzzy_Duck wrote: »

I'd be annoyed too! I agree with everyone else that you shouldn't go and find something else to do. He could visit his mother and have a related birthday celebration with her the week after surely.

You would think so wouldn't you

Apparently that was suggested and she said he doesn't spend enough time with his family as it is (yeah tell me about it!) so we should make allowences and come up at the approriate times not after the event

Tashatutuw

I think this is a hard one and probably you should sit down and be honest with your OH and say that you were really hoping to have some quality time to yourselves to celebrate your first year of marriage. She is not the main woman in his life and should be the one to make allowances - This type of thing makes me very glad I do not have a MIL2B (as horrible as that sounds) I couldn't cope with the stress!

I have my fingers crossed for you OP x

cats2012

Tashatutuw wrote: »

I think this is a hard one and probably you should sit down and be honest with your OH and say that you were really hoping to have some quality time to yourselves to celebrate your first year of marriage. x

This.

You guys have enough hard work seeing each other as it is. You are a new family now, you come first.