Best Ways to Turn a Guy Down When He's Persistent?

giantmutantbroccoli

I personally wouldn't carry an alarm as I don't like the idea, but that's not to say they wouldn't be useful to somebody.
I am curious now though, is there any evidence that a personal alarm is more effective than just shouting? I've heard that it's actually better, if you're being attacked, to shout "Fire!" rather than "Help!" as people are more likely to respond, but I don't know how true that is. I'm thinking if you live in a town or city you probably hear alarms go off all the time, so might not respond thinking it's just a car alarm or something.

Having said all that, I do have an emergency app type thing on my phone. If you have an android smartphone there's an app called Tasker that you can use to make your own apps or automate your phone to do various things. I used it to make an emergency rescue app that lets me text a friend with my location saying I need help, or generate a fake phonecall so I have an excuse to leave. It's not quite the same level as a personal alarm, although thinking about it it would be quite easy to add an alarm to it! The trick would be making an alarm that would go off when the phone was dropped or subject to violent motion but not just when you've put your handbag down a bit roughly... I've not used the emergency text except to test it, but the fake phonecall has proven useful, I made it when I started online dating.
Now if only there was an app that could discourage drunken idiots... anybody know how to set your phone to give someone a mild electric shock? Lol.

lostinrates

Rape alarms are piercing. Primarily they'd shock an attacker, and then they wouldn't know how to turn them off if you've thrown the pin or unit Apart from each other in poor light.

Piercing. Like, never do in an enclosed space piercing.


That shock moment would be enough for someone like you who has self defence skills, to gain advantage, or for most women to try and knee hard and run.

Person_one

A rape alarm is painfully loud, as lostinrates says. Its also really easy to activate, usually, you just pull on a tag and you're partially deaf for a few hours.

I have to ask, why don't you like the idea?

Bazey

giantmutantbroccoli wrote: »

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I lol'ed at this, you sound amazing. Marry me?

Hermia

giantmutantbroccoli wrote: »

I personally wouldn't carry an alarm as I don't like the idea, but that's not to say they wouldn't be useful to somebody.
I am curious now though, is there any evidence that a personal alarm is more effective than just shouting? I've heard that it's actually better, if you're being attacked, to shout "Fire!" rather than "Help!" as people are more likely to respond, but I don't know how true that is. I'm thinking if you live in a town or city you probably hear alarms go off all the time, so might not respond thinking it's just a car alarm or something.

The purpose of a rape alarm is to make the attacker pause which gives you time to do something, not to alert others (although that could be a side effect). If someone lives in an urban area I doubt that shouting "fire" or "help" or screaming will do anything either.

Dysnomia

This sounds EXACTLY like a guy I knew at University.

He was on the same course as me, which was fairly small so he was difficult to avoid. After a couple of rejected passes he wrote me a rather creepy letter and started to follow me and my friends around campus. I got the campus security people to have a chat, they were very nice guys (to me) and afterwards there were no more problems.

Until he started doing the same things to another girl on my course. He was well known to campus security and the local police by the time we graduated. I don't think he meant anything nefarious, he just didn't understand why he was behaving unacceptably.

Dys.

Tish_P

Dysnomia wrote: »

He was well known to campus security and the local police by the time we graduated. I don't think he meant anything nefarious, he just didn't understand why he was behaving unacceptably.

I totally don't believe that this guy thought his actions were inncent after multiple incidents involving the actual bleedin' police. We should stop giving creepy, stalky, assaulty blokes like this the benefit of every possible doubt.

**professor~yaffle**

Dysnomia wrote: »

This sounds EXACTLY like a guy I knew at University.

He was on the same course as me, which was fairly small so he was difficult to avoid. After a couple of rejected passes he wrote me a rather creepy letter and started to follow me and my friends around campus. I got the campus security people to have a chat, they were very nice guys (to me) and afterwards there were no more problems.

Until he started doing the same things to another girl on my course. He was well known to campus security and the local police by the time we graduated. I don't think he meant anything nefarious, he just didn't understand why he was behaving unacceptably.

Dys.

Just goes to show, someone can be academically bright, but socially stupid!