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Hen Stress Advice

TigerLilly1003
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Hello All,
Im hoping for some advice on a issue I have with my hen party.
Basically at the beginning of the year I mentioned to my mother that I wanted to go away to Manchester for my hen do. She was invited and happy to come. I invited her mainly because I felt I had to, ideally i would of liked her to decline as I know my friends have a wild time planned!
Anyway, a huge family rift took place as my mother ended her relationship with my stepfather in a less then respectful way, I subsequently did not speak with her for a long time and have only seen her 3 times in the last six months. 2 out of the 3 meetings ending in disaster.
My wedding is in January abroad. She now has a new boyfriend, makes no effort with her children and invite new bf to my abroad wedding when I hadnt even met him!
During the time we fell out my hen was organised and she was not invited in the end, it was all booked and paid for us and as I was not speaking to her it was not mentioned.
I have now told her about the weekend away and basically I have offered an olive branch and said that I will have another local hen do with family members but apparently this is a stupid idea and she is not happy about being invited!
She is coming round tomorrow for a visit and I am dreading this being brought up. I would just like peoples opinions please if you have one??
Im just fed up with it all, she has single handedly nearly destroyed my relation and wedding with all her selfish ways. My step dad who was giving me away is not coming to my wedding anymore as he cant be around her for 2 weeks. Nightmare! :mad:
Im hoping for some advice on a issue I have with my hen party.
Basically at the beginning of the year I mentioned to my mother that I wanted to go away to Manchester for my hen do. She was invited and happy to come. I invited her mainly because I felt I had to, ideally i would of liked her to decline as I know my friends have a wild time planned!
Anyway, a huge family rift took place as my mother ended her relationship with my stepfather in a less then respectful way, I subsequently did not speak with her for a long time and have only seen her 3 times in the last six months. 2 out of the 3 meetings ending in disaster.
My wedding is in January abroad. She now has a new boyfriend, makes no effort with her children and invite new bf to my abroad wedding when I hadnt even met him!
During the time we fell out my hen was organised and she was not invited in the end, it was all booked and paid for us and as I was not speaking to her it was not mentioned.
I have now told her about the weekend away and basically I have offered an olive branch and said that I will have another local hen do with family members but apparently this is a stupid idea and she is not happy about being invited!
She is coming round tomorrow for a visit and I am dreading this being brought up. I would just like peoples opinions please if you have one??
Im just fed up with it all, she has single handedly nearly destroyed my relation and wedding with all her selfish ways. My step dad who was giving me away is not coming to my wedding anymore as he cant be around her for 2 weeks. Nightmare! :mad:
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Would it be possible to claim that your friends went a bit overboard on the hen do plans and so it turned into a plan for a rather wild night of hitting the town etc, you didn't feel this would be something your mum was interested in and so felt it may be better to have a nice meal/afternoon tea for family as an additional hen?0
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