CSA & Separation Agreement

Bluemeanie_2

CSAworkerx wrote: »

Cant really see anywhere, where people had a go at him, giggle maybe but myself + prelude and the rest seemed to be trying to help?

That's who I meant

Gigglepig

Bluemeanie, I am not trying to have a go at OP. Given that this private arrangement is already in place, i suggested looking into using childcare vouchers to reduce the net cost of the childcare for OP.
i also added i thought this existing, voluntary agreement seemed perfectly fair as ir was. if both parents are working, it seems fair enough to split the childcare costs to enable them both to work, no? It seems like a perfectly sensible private agreement. It also seems reasonable to contribute towards other costs, if the children live at the ex's house more than 50% of the time and/or the ex pays more than 50% of the other bills.
I agree with you we don't know any further facts here than what the OP has stated. But that goes both ways. If OP pulls put of the separation agreement now, what are the consequences for the children and his ex? Many people cannot easily afford childcare for two kids on one salary. Would his ex struggle financially or even jack in her job if she were left with the full childcare bill? It might be in the best interest of the children that both parents are able to continue their careers.
It is also good for the kids if things are as amicable as possible and trying to circumvent the existing separation agreement could create conflict and instability.

OP, I hope you manage to keep things amicable, in an ideal world you could sit down and discuss this agreement with the ex, and negotiate some changes which are acceptable to you both and won't bankrupt neither of you. sadly it isn't always that easy. just like you might struggle to pay maintenance on top of half the childcare, your ex might struggle without a maintenance payment.