dmp budget and ex partner who never pays his half of bills

houseofcards

I'm currently in the situation where I have split from my partner , a few months after we moved from rooms in a shared house to a one bed flat. So at the moment I am sleeping in the lunge/kitchen area.

I have had to redo my dmp and add several new debts already since my ex always relied on me to bail him out of things (he didn't budget for car repairs, or being ill off work, ran up store card debts when he got a job after being unemployed with me supporting him for a year, always expected me to pay his phone bill and he managed to get that at £100 for a few months, he also told me we were moving and then left it to the last minute to say I would have to take a payday loan to cover the bond and deposit and he would pay half of it back, which he never did)
((And I expect there to be some people on here saying its my fault I caved in, well I did meet him when I was 20yrs old, and he is 8 yrs older than me. I was young and impressionable, and always wanted to see the best in people and to trust them and be the best girlfriend etc etc. Well he left me for another woman and said I neglected him, and that he couldnt live with someone who was too stressed and obsessed about money.))
Anyway , rant over. He still wants to have his stuff at the flat and be counted as living there, although hes always at his gfs place, he asks what the cost of bills (but he only wants to pay a 1/4 utilities payments) are weekly, I have told him, but last month he only gave £50 in total which doesn't even cover his half of council tax.

Should I be advising the debt charity that deals with my dmp about the fact Im being forced to pay his share ?

I am also fairly irate about the situation and feel that yet again my ex is using me, but I have to stay calm as he is in the flat sometimes. It is tough. Still got 6 months plus left in current place and foreseeing difficulty renting my own place as all the places I've rent with my ex I cannot get references from due to debts, and none of my family can be guarantors. Any ideas on this ?

tallyhoh

I assume other GF is on benefits & that is why he wants to say he lives with you.

I would ask him to move his stuff out ASAP I redo your DMP as paying all the bills.

You can get 25% off the council tax for a start, which is probably as much as he's paying you at the moment.

HappyMJ

houseofcards wrote: »

I'm currently in the situation where I have split from my partner , a few months after we moved from rooms in a shared house to a one bed flat. So at the moment I am sleeping in the lunge/kitchen area.

I have had to redo my dmp and add several new debts already since my ex always relied on me to bail him out of things (he didn't budget for car repairs, or being ill off work, ran up store card debts when he got a job after being unemployed with me supporting him for a year, always expected me to pay his phone bill and he managed to get that at £100 for a few months, he also told me we were moving and then left it to the last minute to say I would have to take a payday loan to cover the bond and deposit and he would pay half of it back, which he never did)
((And I expect there to be some people on here saying its my fault I caved in, well I did meet him when I was 20yrs old, and he is 8 yrs older than me. I was young and impressionable, and always wanted to see the best in people and to trust them and be the best girlfriend etc etc. Well he left me for another woman and said I neglected him, and that he couldnt live with someone who was too stressed and obsessed about money.))
Anyway , rant over. He still wants to have his stuff at the flat and be counted as living there, although hes always at his gfs place, he asks what the cost of bills (but he only wants to pay a 1/4 utilities payments) are weekly, I have told him, but last month he only gave £50 in total which doesn't even cover his half of council tax.

Should I be advising the debt charity that deals with my dmp about the fact Im being forced to pay his share ?

I am also fairly irate about the situation and feel that yet again my ex is using me, but I have to stay calm as he is in the flat sometimes. It is tough. Still got 6 months plus left in current place and foreseeing difficulty renting my own place as all the places I've rent with my ex I cannot get references from due to debts, and none of my family can be guarantors. Any ideas on this ?

You aren't being forced to pay his share....you're allowing it. Tell him to pay half or pack his bags and get out.