Daphne01 Please allow PMs!

grannybiker

Trying to reply to your PM as very, very confused as to why you think I'm involved... However, you don't / can't receive PMs.
I don't know any of the people you refer to, nor have I interacted with them.
Don't want to say more on the forum, so please will you allow PMs?
Thanks

grannybiker

Can I just say publicly that I do NOT condone bullying of ANY kind, by ANY person.
I like to think I am aware of a wide range of both social issues and human interactions, so make a conscious effort that any comments I make can't be misinterpreted.
If I have inadvertently offended anyone, please let me know where and how so that I can attempt to repair any damage and ensure it doesn't happen again.
Thanks.
GB X

Luckyone

Hello Grannybiker :hello:

I just wanted to say that on every single forum I have been on or are a member of always has miss understandings happen.

When someone types something on the forum or by PM the person reading it can not tell what the tone of their voice is, if they are smiling, frowning, upset or happy. Joking or being serious.

I have found that asking the person who has written something that you don't like what they mean by it, will clear up 99% of problems.

Forums can be the most lovely place to be, but can also be a horrible place to be too.

I hope you all can sort this out & get back to doing what we love to do & that's comping

After all that's something we all have in common

Take care

Luckyone xxx

grannybiker

Thanks for your reply LuckyOne.
Am totally bewildered TBH and straight away tried to PM back to clear up any misunderstanding. The PMs were sent yesterday afternoon, but I didn't come online until yesterday night.
I hate anyone being unhappy, so the thought that I had inadvertently caused distress is deeply upsetting.
Obviously it's not appropriate for me to discuss the contents of PMs on here, but the explanatory PM meant absolutely nothing to me, to the extent I'm now wondering if it was sent in error?
Am I really viewed by ANYONE as part of a bullying clique? Those who TRULY know me would find this so far-removed from the truth it's almost laughable. Sadly there's someone very unhappy who's not laughing and I have no tools to be able to put them at peace
Just want a happy forum where everyone loves each other!

Luckyone

I totally understand where you are coming from because I have myself been on the receiving end of comments & pm's that are frighteningly disturbing to be honest, stalked & threatened.

And have also been accused of being unkind to people when I was not being unkind just trying to sort situations out that needed sorting a long time ago, or speaking to people in the same manor they have spoken to me in.

Both situations sucked big time, I was totally missrable & spent many a day crying & feeling so upset it's not real, to the point of making myself ill.

There is only so much you can do.

You have explained in a PM straight away & have tried to contact the person or people concerned to try & sort things out.

Sometimes people are too upset/cross to listen straight away. Time is a good healer & after a few days sometimes things look different & sometimes they don't.

All you can do is let the person/persons know you are there if or when they are ready to talk to you, which you have done.

It's a kind of limbo really, but what I have learnt is you need to stop beating yourself up about it, make peace with yourself knowing you have done all you can for now to sort it out.

Luckyone xxx

Daphne01

I completely misinterpreted something and I apologize unreservedly

Luckyone

Oh I am so very pleased you both have been able to sort it out

It's made my weekend knowing this

Big hugs all round

:grouphug:

custardcream1000

Daphne01 wrote: »

I completely misinterpreted something and I apologize unreservedly

I just wanted to say I am very sorry about your mum Daphne. Hugs x