Bl**dy OH Can I have a rant grrrrrrrrr

winnie81

Can I please have a rant about OH :mad:

He was made bankrupt at the beginning of April and so far he has been so lax about things that need doing :mad: I know I am now angel for being on top of things but he drives me up the wall.

After his telephone interview with the OR he was supposed to supply some info for her to have he didn't do this and today I get a letter for him to supply the info within next 10 days. So today I spend ages finding out the info (in between looking after 2 kids :rolleyes: ) and sorting it all out so he just needed to give it a once over and I can send it first thing in the morning.

I ask him to do look over it before he went of to watch football and he casually replied he will do it later - its a joke now when he says that as we both know it wont get done :mad:

Then when I get mad he cant see why?? I did it all he only needed to spend a quick 2 seconds looking over it so he was happy with it and it would be done :mad: He just said that if the OR has waited all this time a few more days wont hurt :mad:

I don't think he can grasp the sheer strain this whole situation has put on me I cannot take the stress of this anymore. We have 3 small kids and I am 19wks pregnant I really need to concentrate on other things other than his bankruptcy I am still suffering from PND and this is too much now.

Why can't he just realise that this needs to be finalised so we/I can move on and enjoy ourselves again

I am so tempted to simply lock him out and say sod it he can deal with it from now on

Sorry for the long winded rant but I needed to get that of my chest

Richard_S

Hi winnie,

If my O.H finds me on the computer she'll go absolutely apeshit, she'll rant & rave withdraw all sorts of pleasurable little perks and make my life a complete misery.

Hit the lazy !!!!!! where it hurts, his pride, his pants and his peace of mind; it keeps me on my toes; gotta dash I can hear the "clack clack" of the approaching footsteps of her who must be obeyed. :eek: :eek:

Get tough winnie,

Richard

Broken_hearted

I would have sent it myself then again I can be a bit controling over money.

savagevixen

It sounds like even if you try to force him, you will still be doing the worrying. I had to do it all for my OH, he didn't have a clue how to manage it. He is very good at not spending money (which is great) but is hopeless at organising and found going bankrupt, horrible and embarrassing and didn't want to think about it.
My instinct is, kick his backside, but it probably won't make much difference. I even had to speak to the OR for him, cos he didn't know many answers to questions she had....
At least it will be done and you can get back to the kids.

winnie81

Thanks Guys

This is just so stressful and made ten times worse when it seems your on your own

His backside has been kicked lol

Claire x

Oldernotwiser

I'd either accept that this is one area of your marriage that you take charge of or just refuse to do anything and let him sink or swim on his own. At the moment it's neither one thing or the other and it's this that you're finding so stressful.