Bride to be and need your help!!

WorkingMummy84

OH Proposed last year and since lost his job. Fortunately we hadn't put a deposit on a venue or we'd have lost it!

Now, I have decided its time to pull myself up by the boot straps and get this show back on the road, so... here's where the help comes in...

I'm going to organise it and only let him in on it a week before the day! So far I've got main cake sorted, going to the bridal shop tomorrow with a friend while he's volunteering at the charity shop.

I need to cut as many expenses off the list as possible, and get back to basics, but not lose the whole" wedding experience".

I know I have to get him to give his notice, and have a suit fitting, but other than that, is there anything else I'll need him for?

katie1812

Rings? What about him picking a best man and speeches?
Will he have time off work if you need it?

clrat25

Doesn't he have to meet with Registrar or whoever will be performing the ceremony?

Saveitandsee

No idea about England but in not so sunny Scotland, we have to submit a form 6 weeks prior to the ceremony which the bride, groom and witnesses have to sign in order to get a marriage schedule and make the marriage legal

lisajane8482

I'm England you have to give a minimum of 16 days notice.

floss2

WorkingMummy84 wrote: »

OH Proposed last year and since lost his job. Fortunately we hadn't put a deposit on a venue or we'd have lost it!

Now, I have decided its time to pull myself up by the boot straps and get this show back on the road, so... here's where the help comes in...

I'm going to organise it and only let him in on it a week before the day! So far I've got main cake sorted, going to the bridal shop tomorrow with a friend while he's volunteering at the charity shop.

I need to cut as many expenses off the list as possible, and get back to basics, but not lose the whole" wedding experience".

I know I have to get him to give his notice, and have a suit fitting, but other than that, is there anything else I'll need him for?

So he won't have any say in the plans, or be involved in anyway apart from the legalities and his suit?

Do you know what he would really like for his wedding, or do his hopes and dreams not matter?

Skintski

As lovely as the idea of a surprise wedding may seem my OH would have been gutted if he had missed out on the chance to help organise his own big day. I know some grooms aren't that involved but mine has made some of the more important decisions and it means his stamp is on the day.

floss2

Skintski wrote: »

As lovely as the idea of a surprise wedding may seem my OH would have been gutted if he had missed out on the chance to help organise his own big day. I know some grooms aren't that involved but mine has made some of the more important decisions and it means his stamp is on the day.

Exactly - it was my DH's first wedding and my second, he wanted it to be just right for himself and his parents & brothers so a lot of the decisions were made with his input...food, venue, music, band, guests, colour scheme.

ska_lover

My OH would not have liked a suprise wedding - if i chose everything. Its been done together and I must say it has been quite enjoyable planning it all together

MrsC....tobe

My hubby started the plans without telling me, but also knew it was my favourite location to do it and I was dead pleased that he had started them off his own back....but after he told me I kinda took over and asked/told him everything as it was happening, especially as he needed to be totally involved for legalities (getting married in Italy). Some things I didn't tell him about and then he came up with exactly the same ideas anyway.
As romantic as a surprise wedding would be, I know someone else that did this, had everything booked and then told her fella. He ended the relationship on the spot as he wasn't ready to get married and didn't like her going behind his back and she lost a LOT of money in deposits etc.

Unless you're absolutely certain, I'd let him in on your plans from a very early stage....