Anxiety/worries - how do you manage yours?

Miss_Cinnabon

Heres moodgym link : http://moodgym.anu.edu.au/

Kyle

quietheart

henmuffin wrote: »

Hi remember that everybody has worries and stress is perfectly natural. Sometimes it just gets out of control. The way out is by making a few small changes to your lifestyle. These could include doing daily exercise for at least 30 minutes a day. Buy or borrow a relaxation cd and listen to this every day if you can. Spend time with friends and family, supportive relationships are really important. CBT is effective but you need to learn how to challenge your negative thoughts. A good book to read is 'Self help for your nerves' by Clare Weeks or 'Manage your Mind' but I can't remember who the author is. If you make a few small changes you should feel a bit better. I hope this is helpful. Good luck.

Will try and get hold of that book. I have a big family and lots of good friends. I just find it incredibly difficult to admit to my anxiety. I think because it's mainly about house problems, major work that i can't begin to afford and it's pretty trivial and I'd feel embarrassed, my friends would wish they only had my level of problems. I'm always sorting out other peoples problems but am no good on my own. I find a problem and my mind immediately spirals to the house falling down and being unsaleable, my stomach knots and i can't get back to where i was. I sound really pathetic don't i?!

lewt

found this hope it helps. http://www.emotionsanonymous.org/

Let_Robinson_Sing

kyle wrote: »

Heres moodgym link : http://moodgym.anu.edu.au/

Kyle

WOW that place is really good. just finished thoughts and feelings module.

ShirleyPark_2

I have "Manage Your Mind" and it's really good and has helped me lots.

Off to take a look at the moodgym website

scoobysue_4

larmy16 wrote: »

A lot of people comment on how laid back I am. Not so. Inside I am a mass of swirling anxiety and analysing everything (exhausting). Every now and again it all builds up, so that I cannot cope and I need to have a good cry.

I also find getting stuck into a really good book extremely therapeutic. There is nothing like a page turner to take your mind off your own problems.

i know what you mean, for me personally when i feel worried or am fretting about things in general, i take a book i know i will enjoy (usually a jill mansell as they are so true to life and funny lighthearted ) and i will drive over to a favourite place (in my case bakewell, derbyshire) and sit reading my book by the river with the ducks, or else i walk to a nearby park area where i can sit quietly and read or gather my thoughts together, the sound of a running stream/river and ducks never fails to chill me out. good luck,

TheWaltons_3

rovers wrote: »

I guess most people worry but I worry more than most. I seem quite positive outwardly but generally expect the worst. Sometimes I wake up with a knot of anxiety in my stomach and know it'll be a bad day. When you feel like that how do you get yourself out of it? I know worry is pointless (like paying interest on something you'll never own) but how do you stop it?

Think positive thoughts... honestly.. wake up in the morning .. tell yourself how great you are and how good your life is... and you will feel the weight come off your shoulders!!! Think positively all day long.. you will start to believe the positive thoughts just like you are constantly believing the sub conscious negative thoughts!!!

Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway is a brilliant book...

santashelper_2

i was raised in a very negative family so negative thoughts seen to enter my mind automatically and its a real batter to change them

i can get anxiety attacks come on with no warning when im out and i get all the symptoms of fight or flight exhuastion, pounding heart, my eyes ache, legs turn to jelly,feel distant, drained but on a positive note i am facing my fears has anyone else been through this and come out the other side i had a breakdown 4 years ago and have moved slowly forward but this is doing my head in.

patwa_2

I'm a bit like you as well. Outwardly I'm quite calm, maybe too calm and am always portraying the happy go lucky attitude. I seem to have relaxed too much recently, I've noticed people saying I should take things more seriously and getting annoyed when i don't seem to.

But I do worry inside, usually I'm quite good at just ignoring it, after all there's no point worrying about things we can't control, what will happen will happen and all that.

Sometimes I worry for no reason. Like today, my mum said that for the first time she's really nervous about us going on holiday to Tanzania. We've been there quite a few times before, and she said it's not even about the flight or visas or anything like that, she's just nervous about being there. And then I realised that for the last few days I've been feeling the same way. I just feel that something, somewhere isn't right, but I can't put my finger on it. It's like when you're watching a film, you know something is going to happen and can probably guess what, but you're still worried. Except in this case I don't know what is going to happen and can't put my finger on anything, oh and it's not a film. But something just doesn't feel right, does that make any sense?

I've never believed in gut feelings or self-intuition, usually when I worry it's just a concern that I can try to rationalise. but tonight I can just feel inside me almost as a certainty that something isn't right. It's like a churning in my stomach, I can almost feel the whatever it is that's going to happen getting closer and closer.

H.

judderman62

henmuffin wrote: »

A good book to read is 'Self help for your nerves' by Clare Weeks .

Ooooh I'm sure I have that somewhere in my collection of self help books