C.S.A. - Please someone help me - worried :(

xgingerx

spoke to my ex, she said to help me out she would say that my daughter stays at my house around 106 days a year, most weekends and holidays

Said this might help me out as at the end of the day she says she does not see the money anyway and does not want me to live in poverty

aussiesbird

xgingerx wrote: »

spoke to my ex, she said to help me out she would say that my daughter stays at my house around 106 days a year, most weekends and holidays

Said this might help me out as at the end of the day she says she does not see the money anyway and does not want me to live in poverty

You have a very kind and understanding ex there and it is so plain to see that your daughter is in a loving stable environment with both of you. I applaud you both, it's a shame other couples can't take lessons from you. I hope you get it sorted out, but get your stories right before you contact the CSA as they have no mercy!! Good luck to you and your family.

Lil2002

xgingerx wrote: »

Hi, I think I need to buy some time, what would happen if i ignored this first letter ? would this give me a few months to play with to clear some of my smaller debts?

I dont really want to lie but on the letter they want a reply in 7 days so could start taking money very soon, where as if i had a few months I could clear some of the smaller debts which would free up some of my monthly out goings to cover some of this if you see what i mean?

Child maintenance is due from the date the CSA first contacted you. Doesn't matter if you ignore it, and really doesn't help you if you do.

Have you been paying for daughter up till now? If you have, anything you have paid since the date of contact can be taken into consideration as a voluntary payment.

kelloggs36

If you delay in sending in the forms, then they will contact your employer and slap on a Deduction of Earnings Order on you, so don't delay as they can't give you the reduciton for shared care either if you haven't told them about it. You will get 1/7 reduction for every night she stays with you.

TheWaltons_3

You do have a very good and considerate ex there - as she says, if she says that you have the children for alot of the time, your payments will be massively reduced. You could respond to this and explain to your ex that the minute she work you will do a reassessment with the CSA and she can then say that you only have your daughter one night a week.. or whatever this is.

You can delay, perhaps ring them up in the mean time... but do not ignore the letter as you could be slapped with a DEO which would mean you may not get the chance to have the amount reduced by saying you have your daughter x amount of times in the year.

good luck and don't panic.

xgingerx

Thanks, think I will bite the bullet and get those forms sent off and see what happens.

Think I might have to go to CCCS and see if I can get a DMP plan set up as think its going to be pretty imposible to live if not

TheWaltons_3

xgingerx wrote: »

Thanks, think I will bite the bullet and get those forms sent off and see what happens.

Think I might have to go to CCCS and see if I can get a DMP plan set up as think its going to be pretty imposible to live if not

go for it... you've got to live and your daughter wont benefit from her Daddy being stressed out all the time

N71

If she/you agree that there is 106 nights shared care it will reduce the maintenance you pay by 2/7th's.

So it will be 15% of your average take home pay. Divide the amount by 7, and times by 5 - you'll pay 5/7ths of the maintenance.

You can do a calculation on the CSA website.

If you don't send the forms, they can go direct to your employer for earnings details etc, and Deduction of earnings if necessary. Also, if you delay it for a bit, you'll just end up having to pay arrears on top of your maintance to cover the weeks you've delayed. The start of the maintencance assessment will be the date of the letter/forms you've received.

Scarlett1

Your ex will benefit from £10 per week of that money, its not a lot but £40 per month will help her, I know you buy your child clothes, but I still think that you should have been paying some kind of maintenace