Boss trying to get rid of me after returning from maternity

Takeaway_Addict

warehouse wrote: »

What % are settled before they get to the tribunal?

That I do not know but I would expect compared to other claims a fairly low % as the fact is winning a tribunal on constructive dismissal is fairly well known is low so employers are more likely to fight (though some will settle just as their nature)

livalicious

Thank you Dumbe for the very good advice, my boss is a classic workplace bully and you just described the best way to deal with him.

I got yet another email today basically saying how rubbish I am at my job and we are to have a meeting, to also discuss my attitude! If anything Ive managed to bite my tongue and keep a poker face, which believe me, was very had to do as Im quite hotheaded. I politely replied to each point he raised and am yet to hear back from him. He done me a favour really, as I have both our conversations now in writing and it clearly shows how unreasonable he is being. How can you say you are concerned with an employees ability to do their job and reach targets two days into being back at work. At least a week to see if any progress has been made, which I have done considerably.

And thank you MEM62 I will make sure to keep detailed logs with times, dates, etc and copies of emails, I hope it doesn't come to having to use it, but I wont just roll over and sidle off into the good night if it does.

Thank you again

gibson123

livalicious wrote: »

Im glad you got the result you wanted in the end, not a very nice thing to have to go through whilst pregnant. Im not pregnant though, Ive just got back from maternity leave. But before I left I worked myself to the bone trying to clear up a high volume of work as I was promised a bonus, but of course, didn't get what was agreed. So the stress of that I believe caused me to fall ill. Therefore I don't think it is fair that my boss gives me a hard time now after all the work I put in before.

I spoke to ACAS, and they said to write a grievance letter to my boss addressing all my issues with him and feeling harassed. I will wait before I do that to see if things cant be resolved informally, if not, then grievance letter it will be, along with keeping notes of every conversation, every letter, etc.

It's very similar though, some bosses change when a woman is pregnant or has young children, you cannot change them you can only protect yourself. There is nothing fair or right about the situation, you can stress yourself into illness or work yourself to the bone, you will not change his behaviour. Keep well, keep strong, do your work, no more no less and keep a record of everything.

livalicious

Thank you gibson123, sound advice!

RuthnJasper

Dumbe wrote: »

Op.. Suggest you continue to look for a new job
.. Make sure you look every week at least .. Easy to get busy and not check and miss that dream job!

In the meantime do your best to be a model employee.

I get your boss is being unfair.. But instead of complaining or defending yourself when he nit picks or is unreasonable.

Smile sweetly, thank him For bringing the mistake to your attention and rectify it.

Regarding volume, when he says you need to do more .. Do it.. Smile and look like you are relishing the extra work. ( for a few weeks quietly bring things home/ stay late) but look like its the best thing in the world

Regarding the car parking.. Depends if everyone else has to park 10 mins away .. Or if it's just you but don't rock the boat ..

In any case for that .. If its ever brought up say something..like great I will get some exercise walking to the car... Likewise any new niggly things look for a silver lining and highlight it.. Looking like what he planned would upset you is actually the most wonderful thing in the world!

Make out like your job is your life and your sole reason for existence! Become the best employee you can be (on the outside)?. Remember the situation is temporary and your goal is to find and new job and get a glowing reference.

Imagine how infuriating it will be for you boss if when he tries to drive you away upset you .. It has the opposite effect

You get the picture!

BUT at the same time Document everything.. Print out emails, diarise everything everyday ..so if you at edismissed before you get another job you can challenge it.

make sure you include times, dates , attendees and exactly what happened each time.

P

This is excellent advice, precisely what I was going to suggest.

Livalicious - there is no other word for it; you are being bullied and it is as cruel as it is unreasonable. You've done the right thing in approaching ACAS. You might find that the CAB can offer support as well - try here: http://www.adviceguide.org.uk/england/work_e/work_discrimination_e.htm.

Also, it would be worth mentioning it to your GP/Midwife - they may be able to offer support, advice and/or a letter to your employer.

Please don't let this wretched situation - which is absolutely NO fault of yours - taint your experience of being a mother to a young baby. You've done everything that has been asked of you - and more besides from what you have posted. I hope that you can take comfort in this.

But DO take the time to note everything down as Dumbe and gibson123 have suggested, no matter how petty or irrelevant some of the "smaller instance" incidents seem. You never know - the boss may have had similar complaints made against him in the past which have remained confidential - and your efforts might be the final piece in the puzzle which ensures that he cannot ever do this to someone else in future.

Whatever transpires, I sincerely wish you and your family all the best for the future. x

livalicious

Thank you for your kind words RuthnJasper, sometimes a little pat on the back saying "there there..." makes such a difference, which I feel you've just done :A

RuthnJasper

livalicious wrote: »

Thank you for your kind words RuthnJasper, sometimes a little pat on the back saying "there there..." makes such a difference, which I feel you've just done :A

SO glad I could help. It'll be OK. Keep smiling and stay strong - you are SO MUCH better than pathetic bullies - remember that sweetie. xxx

keyser666

Oh with regards to emails and the like, make sure you save them off site and not at work because if sacked or forced to leave it s very difficult to get hold of these if needed