i want to buy out ex but he wont cooperate

ValHaller

fedup1982 wrote: »

He can't afford to pay the mortgage by himself and wont move out.

Perhaps he can't afford to move out?

He is a joint owner and has rights. Perhaps it would help if you told us what you think his rights are and how your proposals uphold his rights.

I realise that this may come across as a bit cheeky, but as things are at the moment, I would say that the elephant in the room which is tripping you up is his rights. It is a lot simpler to move the situation on if you uphold his rights

From your other thread.

fedup1982 wrote: »

i can't go on living in this situation all my money is tied up in the house i dont want to sell the house because my ex has let the house go since i have moved out. I dont like to go there as i have met someone else and my ex wont let my new partner in the house he just calls the police and shouts for him to get "out of his house". So i fear selling the house whilst my ex is in it, it wont go for as much. Plus my ex put no money down on the house and wont compramise in anyway.

What is the deal between your ex and your new partner?

fedup1982

He has said in the past he parents have a room ready for him, where as my family live overseas.

Its just childish behaviour on his part with regards calling the police on my new partner, my new partner wants to be mature about it but my ex just sounds like a broken record he going over and over he isn't allowed in the house (because he says so). We also had a lodger and the same week he had a letter from the solicitor saying my intensions he evicted the lodger. But the lodger already wanted to move out because of the way he was being towards him.

ValHaller

OK, it is bad enough for solicitors and you are surprised about the reaction to the new partner? The guy fears he will lose his home. It is not unknown for ex's to move back in with new partners and subtly or not so subtly evict the remaining partner. Not saying you are doing this - but as I see it, there is probably very little reason to take the new partner to the house you own with your ex.

I think you need to cut down the threatening visage. Reading between the lines, you seem to want him to just move out and sign the place over to you and your solicitor is threatening costs. And it seems you are offering him nothing. Meanwhile he seems to have a defensive style of thinking. Unless you modify your approach, he is just going to dig in.

Putting money in probably was psychologically a bad move. You need to think about buying him out. Even if he has no equity in the house, he has invested into it. Unless your handling of this acknowlwdges that, this is destined for a bitter fight.

somethingcorporate

ValHaller wrote: »

OK, it is bad enough for solicitors and you are surprised about the reaction to the new partner? The guy fears he will lose his home. It is not unknown for ex's to move back in with new partners and subtly or not so subtly evict the remaining partner. Not saying you are doing this - but as I see it, there is probably very little reason to take the new partner to the house you own with your ex.

I think you need to cut down the threatening visage. Reading between the lines, you seem to want him to just move out and sign the place over to you and your solicitor is threatening costs. And it seems you are offering him nothing. Meanwhile he seems to have a defensive style of thinking. Unless you modify your approach, he is just going to dig in.

Putting money in probably was psychologically a bad move. You need to think about buying him out. Even if he has no equity in the house, he has invested into it. Unless your handling of this acknowlwdges that, this is destined for a bitter fight.

Great response, totally agree.

The OP has completely neglected that fact that their ex is living in his home with just as much right to be there as the OP.