6 weeks after the 'Argument - Shellshocked'

olibrofiz

I'm sooooo tired.

We are now at this point... periods of intense stress, and the police coming out at least 3 times, plus phone calls, but quiet for the last couple of days.

DD's then bf is now definitely her ex, she doesn't want anything to do with him. He still can't let go, and in fact had a breakdown. We are at a point now where there are a couple of his things here, and he is demanding them back - I have taken 2 lots of stuff over, and posted some more already after demands for them - to try and put a stop to all the harassment and contact really. He still has DD's ipod....which she is now saying, as the recent demands are for more stuff back that he gave her as a gift, she wants back too.

I'm just so drained by all this. It would be so easy to just send the stuff, but it won't end there

balletshoes

why won't it end there?

**professor~yaffle**

how old are they? can't they sort it out between themselves?

olibrofiz

He can't let go. I think I mean the contact. I don't know, I'm just drained by all this drama!!

olibrofiz

**professor~yaffle** wrote: »

how old are they? can't they sort it out between themselves?

They're 18 and 20 - no, they can't sort it out themselves. His last msg to me was that if he finds out who her bf is (she doesn't have one??) he'll stab them

EDIT : And DD doesn't want to meet with him as he'll go into meltdown again, and I don't want her to meet him as I cannot guarantee he won't cause her harm

tayforth

Call the police and show them the text.

balletshoes

olibrofiz wrote: »

They're 18 and 20 - no, they can't sort it out themselves.
His last msg to me was that if he finds out who her bf is (she doesn't have one??) he'll stab them

EDIT : And DD doesn't want to meet with him as he'll go into meltdown again, and I don't want her to meet him as I cannot guarantee he won't cause her harm

:cool: has he been watching too much Waterloo Road? He sounds like a 14-year old.

Can you not return the stuff he's asking for, and ignore any of the nonsense you get by contact?

marisco_2

The ex boyfriend sounds like he is totally unhinged. How did you recieve the message that he sent threatening harm to your daughter and the imagined new boyfriend? Was it verbal or by text, email etc? This sounds like a clear case of harrassment to me. Have you contacted the police and sort their assistance in stopping all this?

**professor~yaffle**

balletshoes wrote: »

:cool: has he been watching too much Waterloo Road? He sounds like a 14-year old.

Can you not return the stuff he's asking for, and ignore any of the nonsense you get by contact?

I agree, block his number. It sounds like he is enjoying the attention of it all. If he persists get the Police involved. 18 and 20?? Sad bloke. I thought by the description these were teens still at school or something.

paulineb_2

You can block a number but I think it only stops phone calls getting through, not texts.

olibrofiz

To answer your questions:

We have an SPCO (?) involved, and I rang him and read the text out - the text came to me via the bf's sister's phone as he has no other way of contacting us - he is blocked as much as we can but I am not changing my mobile number!!!!

Regarding returning any stuff, we're talking about one xbox game, a couple of DVD's and a cheap ipod docking station (the latter of which he didn't mention but given the hassle we've had I don't want anything left in my house to encourage future contact) - I have suggested it would be cheaper to pick up these things from a car boot sale than pay the petrol to come to our house to pick them up - and am awaiting a reply via his sister.