second marriage ideas

unajude

I am getting married for the second time and would like it to be special but realise that at ages 51 and 52 it would not be appropriate for 'a big white wedding' Any ideas folks??

floss2

Sorry, but I think that's rubbish. What is appropriate is that the wedding is what YOU both want - not simplified because "they" think it should be (whoever "they" are!!).

I had a bigger wedding second time around, mainly because DH had not been married before. We were both mid-forties when we married.

We got married in our local Town Hall (we don't go to church so it seemed hypocritical and Blackpool's Council Chamber has plenty of grandeur!), hired a tram to take our guests from the ceremony to the venue at one of the grandest hotels - who were doing packages that suited our numbers. My parents held the reception at their home in 1984.

I wore a gorgeous ivory silk full length gown with tiara, veil and fresh flower trailing bouquet - very different from my 1980's nylon Bo-Peep effort with silk flowers from first time round. DH wore an Edwardian-style suit, as did the best man & ushers.

The most important thing is to decide what you both want, and agree on the simplicity or fanciness of your special day.

LEJC

The thing is ...do you want the big white wedding or not?

Probably the world of weddings has changed beyond recognition to what may have been available to you the first time round...so really the world is now your oyster.

Theres something intimate and small like a country house hotel or many tourist type attractions are now licenced to conduct marriages

Theres a foreign beach waiting for you if you desire...might be nice to combine the marriage and the honeymoon and its also a good option if there are only a few special people you want to share your day with.

There may be the possibility of a church wedding dependant on your circumstance if you want the traditional type

I guess the first things to consider are budget and how many people you want to share your day with.Once youve got that sorted in your head you can then move on to think about where you want to hold the celebration and everything else will probablt start to become a lot clearer too about the type of way you want the day to go.

Have lots offun planning and enjoy it!

podperson

I've been to a few 'big white weddings' for slightly older couples, have another one in July! The important thing is do you want the white wedding? If you do then go for it, I'm sure it will be great.
If you don't want that I'm sure there's lots of other options - marrying abroad, quirky/unusual venture, interesting theme. I'm a strong believer that your wedding should reflect you - so what would you love to have for it?

dotchas

You need to have what you want! I am 48 so wasn't sure to start with but we are having a small to medium white wedding. I wanted a lovely dress (not a meringue) as I have not been married before and also wanted our special friends there to celebrate with us. Once we worked out our guest list at approx 34 we set about looking for a venue. We picked Gretna Green! We are having the ceremony in the Anvil Hall ( a converted church but non religious) then the reception in a hotel about 12 miles away. All our guests are coming for the weekend so it will be lovely. Maybe think about who you want to be there and then arrange the wedding to suit....................but there's no better excuse for a fancy new dress!!!!

themull1

Im having a big wedding with the dress etc and its my third one!!

jansus

Anything is appropriate as long as you feel comfortable. There are some lovely elegant ivory dresses out there, my opinion is that although it's your second wedding it's the first with your husband to be and you will be his bride so go for it and look like one :T:T

sweetme

What about having a humanist do the service? I really like the idea of that, but then I am non religious. You can speak your own "vows", tell your story kinda thing?

ellay864

Dh and I were 47 and 53 and it was a 2nd marriage for both of us. We'd both had the church white weddings before, but neither of us now attend church and to do that again just didn't feel right. But we wanted it to be very special and personal. We had a civil ceremony with about 40 guests, at Chester Zoo, a place that's very special to both of us. My eldest son gave me away, my youngest was usher; DHs son was best man and DHs daughter was my bridesmaid. We wrote our own vows, a friend wrote one reading and we chose another for my son to read. I wore a gorgeous full length platinum coloured gown. The day was beautiful - very personal, lots of fun and I wouldn't have changed a thing. I'm glad my 2nd wedding was different but in no way was it 2nd best.
Wear what you want, have the day you want, whether that be small and intimate or grand and overflowing with lots of guests. As somebody said to me...'you only get married for the second time once'

floss2

ellay864 wrote: »

......'you only get married for the second time once'

Very true - and don't forget that it will be YOUR wedding day, regardless of whether either of you have been married before!

duchy

Like you I'm in my early fifties and didn't think a wedding dress would be appropriate so looked at tea length dresses in evening dress styles.......however more by luck than planning I found a gorgeous ivory wedding dress on ebay which is full length -and very elegant . It'd pass as an evening dress.

I'd feel silly in a veil or lots of frills and flounces -but this is completely age appropriate but very bridal too.