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busiscoming2

My DH is not a head turner, but I find him attractive, especially when he smiles and I can see his dimples!

He told me I looked stunning on our Wedding day (after the event), that was nearly 13 years ago, but is never really complimentary about me at all. The only thing he says is I have a nice bum!

tayforth

I always get to know someone first, fall for his personality and then get the shivers when he's around.

Not to say that I don't go for looks at all, there has to be physical attraction, but I couldn't be attracted to looks alone. A person's character is what I fall in love with. And if I'm in love with someone, I find them incredibly physically attractive.

My ex would have been considered very classically good looking, but once he started being horrid to me I never felt sexually attracted to him after that.

marisco_2

bobble_hat wrote: »

I'm married to the only man I met who I fell in love with before we physically met, so how he looks became irrelevant. First time that happened for me that way round and I've never been happier, which makes me feel like a million dollars (even if I don't look it!)

I am genuinely interested to know, how someone can fall in love with a person, that they haven't actually met.

I'm a very cautious person by nature and wouldn't feel that I even knew someone until I had spent alot of time in their company. First I need to get to know a person inside out and like and appreciate all the little things about them. Only then do I really begin to trust a person enough to let them in, get close and start to develop any kind of feelings for them.

I am not judging or criticising you and I hope it doesn't come across that way. I am just curious about your different approach.

I think part of being attracted to someone is about how they look. However to be truly attracted to someone there has to be the whole package for me; appearance, personality, sense of humour, morals, values and liking how someone conducts themselves and treats others.

heartbreak_star

Judi wrote: »

My hubby was the direct opposite of me. I was a dress and heels type of woman (still am). He was into jeans and leathers.

I never tried to change him however one thing i did do. Early on in our relationship his Mother asked me to get him to cut his hair.

I didnt really fancy marrying someone whose hair was longer than mine so i said if he wanted to marry me he'd have to cut his hair.

He went out on the morning of our wedding and chopped the lot off. His Mother was grateful and i was happy too.

But...but...noooooo! I was gutted when my OH cut his hair from halfway down his back to his shoulders lol!

HBS x

HeadAboveWater

Glad I started this thread!! I'm going 'awwww' at so many posts!! :D:D

codemonkey

My DH probably isn't the most gorgeous man in the world, even though I think he is gorgeous. He's 6'2", skinny but with a little pot belly, always looks like he needs a shave even when he's just done it, and is bald but he has the most amazing smile, gorgeous hazel eyes and I love his bum and thighs. I fell in love with his personality and I can't believe some other woman didn't snap him up. Afm, I'm kind of plain and homely and he has loads of gorgeous female friends but he says I'm beautiful. That could be because I'm not football so he doesn't really notice when I look dodgy.

bobble_hat

marisco wrote: »

I am genuinely interested to know, how someone can fall in love with a person, that they haven't actually met.

I'm a very cautious person by nature and wouldn't feel that I even knew someone until I had spent alot of time in their company.

marisco wrote: »

First I need to get to know a person inside out and like and appreciate all the little things about them. Only then do I really begin to trust a person enough to let them in, get close and start to develop any kind of feelings for them.

This IS how it happened, I'll explain. We met online, when I'd signed up to a dating service in a drunken state of messiness and sadness. Realised what I'd done the next day but decided to get my moneys worth. There are a lot of strange people out there and they seem to be attracted to internet dating sites :eek: and a lot of them approached me, I didn't date anyone from them. But a big hairy biker (So I had seen 1 photo) had checked out my profile, so I read his. Same moral code, same interests, and he sounded intelligent and funny. I liked the way he looked because he was not mainstream but there was no Fwoargh! We started chatting via email for quite some time, then instant messenger, then eventually by phone, then we met. I was already in Love with him, with his attitude, his opinions, with all those things about him that make him who he is. When we met I wasn't immediately lusting after him, but we didn't stop talking all night.

The rest of the relationship happened very slowly, I went to OZ for a month 2 weeks after we met, so that helped. :rotfl: The attraction has built and built and is still building as I heal and realise a bit more every day that he is not going to terrorise me, ignore me or make me feel like a piece of dirt. The less scared I become of being hurt the more I'm attracted to him, I hope that makes sense.

My previous relationships were all based purely on an instant physical attraction, and as I lust after mean, drunken and unstable men, I'd had some very very bad experiences and no happy long-term relationships before this approach. So the physical distance allowed me to get to know the real person, not my idea of a person because of the way they looked and because they were on their best behaviour in order to get me into bed, by which time I'd be hooked and they'd start being mean, but so as not to feel like a trollop I'd stick with it, until they broke me.

marisco wrote: »

I am not judging or criticising you and I hope it doesn't come across that way. I am just curious about your different approach.

:rotfl: No offence taken at all.

FatVonD

I think my husband is good looking, I tend to take him for granted a bit but, like another poster, when I see him somewhere unexpectedly it all comes back to me

FBaby

First I need to get to know a person inside out and like and appreciate all the little things about them. Only then do I really begin to trust a person enough to let them in, get close and start to develop any kind of feelings for them.

That's very interesting and shows how different people are. It takes me a very long time for me to trust someone fully. In the case of my fiance, I would say 4 years to be able to totally let go, so if I were to wait all that time before falling in love, I think I would feel quite miserable! It is love that gives me the patience to learn to trust, not the over way around for me.

please-let-me-be-lucky

Fab thread HAW!

My DH is scrummy! He is slim but muscly and has big strong arms. He has sun bleached blonde hair and a bit of stubble. He looks as good in jeans as he does in a suit but I have to agree, just out of the shower is best . When we met though he was wearing cowboy boots :eek: This was almost a deal breaker!! He was devastated when I said I didn't like them coz he'd paid £110 for them in Russell & Br0mley :eek:

He tells me I'm beautiful inside and out! I believe him about the inside but not the outside!! I have bigger boobs than Jordan but I also have a cake shelf rather than a muffin top :rotfl:. I like the fact that I'm tall, (5"8), although as DH is 5"10 he says I tower over him in heels . DH and I are the same age (34) but I think I look older than he does, probably because I've shouldered all the worry of the last 2 years since his accident. I really should invest in some of that age defying cream :cool: