What to do?!

indecisive_bride

Hi,

I'm hoping for a bit of advice, me and my OH got engaged 2 weeks ago and have started looking at venues. We were looking to get married Feb 2014.
We've found a venue which would be lovely and they have a special package price for winter meaning we would save £3000 if we got married in Dec 2013 (not long!) which we would be happy with.
However my SIL and one of my BMs have announced they are pregnant and both due Nov 2013 just weeks apart.
Obviously this is not that long and my brother and SIL live in Ireland so if the baby is late or there are complications they wouldn't be able to come.
With my BM I don't know how she would feel as I wouldn't want to be a BM a month after giving birth!
It could all be fine if we went ahead and booked it for Dec however it could mean my brother and SIL aren't at my wedding!
Not sure what to do as £3000 is a lot of money...any suggestions?
X

RainbowDrops

Why not speak to your brother & SIL, see how they would feel?
My sister was a BM at my wedding, and gave birth just under 2 months before the wedding.
It meant I couldn't buy BM dresses until 6 weeks before the wedding, but I wasn't fussed about colours or styles, and just let my sis lead the choicemaking.

robpw2

selfish people having babies in the month before your weddding lol ...
i would talk to them and ask them their feelings and if not see about other venues in 2014

gazzak_2

Any chance you could postpone for a year?

indecisive_bride

Haha, yes why would they choose to have a baby now. My partners in the forces so will be going away in May 2014 and potentially the year after so if we postpone it then could go on forever. (Maybe a tad dramatic!)
I know if I spoke to them they'd say it's our wedding and they'd do their best to be there which is lovely but it would be horrible if they weren't able to come. It's not confirmed that they're going to be in Ireland ( my brother is also in the forces so is being posted) may wait until they find out next month and hope they don't have to go!
If everything does go well though can babies even fly at a few weeks old?
Thanks guys! May be getting myself worked up but we're on a bit of a timeline as my partner can't 100% confirm he'll even be here in feb so not the best lol. His sisters getting married April 2014 as she's moved hers so my partner can be there x

lettice

The venues we've been looking at for a winter wedding have offers in October, November, January and February. Perhaps your venue will be able to honour the special offer another month? Or you could ask for a reduction for a weekday/Sunday wedding?

FBaby

lettice wrote: »

The venues we've been looking at for a winter wedding have offers in October, November, January and February. Perhaps your venue will be able to honour the special offer another month? Or you could ask for a reduction for a weekday/Sunday wedding?

I agree, I would explain the situation with the venue and ask if they would honour the same price for an early January wedding.

podperson

I agree that Jan might be safer if the venue would offer the same deal then. I would definately ask them as wedding-wise Jan tends to be quieter than Dec most of the time.
I'm sure your BM will still be happy to do it. I'm a photographer and was at a wedding on Sat, at the meeting to run through a few weeks before the bride had told me her MOH was going to be heavily pregnant as she was due a week after. On the day there was a non-pregnant bridesmaid and a 2 day old baby :rotfl:but everyone rallied round and I'm sure it will be the same for your day x

floss2

If January fits in with your partner's forces committments, I would speak to your venue and explain that because of him being in the forces, and being due to be away on exercise in Spring 2014, would they honour their offer price for January. Hopefully they will say yes, as January is a quiet time

And then tell the non-pregnant guests to use contraception as you ain't shifting it again!