'Im Indoors or How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love the Mess

Generali

http://news.efinancialcareers.com/uk-en/138790/how-female-bankers-handle-their-househusbands-a-users-guide/

If you’re a woman and you want to combine working 70-hour weeks in a financial services job with raising a family, you will probably need one of two things: copious nannies, or a man-about-the-house.
Based upon our conversations with female bankers, househusbands, rather than nannies, are increasingly becoming the mode of choice for keeping things organized on the home front. Helena Morrissey, CEO of Newton Investment Management, famously has one. Househusbands are important for, ‘unlocking that pipeline of women,’.....



This approach has its hazards. Research published last year by the University of Chicago and the University of Singapore suggested relationships are destabilized the moment a woman earns even a small amount more than her male partner. How, then, do high-earning female bankers handle their (emasculated) men and avoid marital meltdown?

Enjoy! I think it's a pretty interesting article: a very successful person with a family can function much better with someone at home; the same is true for both sexes. 'Having it all' is a myth I have long believed and this article gives me ample Confirmation Bias.

michaels

I think house husband would be my dream role, it would certainly not worry me one iota if DW earned more than me and even thinking that it might worry others sounds like something out of a previous era- sadly I think I would have to change DW to achieve it :eek:

ILW

michaels wrote: »

I think house husband would be my dream role, it would certainly not worry me one iota if DW earned more than me and even thinking that it might worry others sounds like something out of a previous era- sadly I think I would have to change DW to achieve it :eek:

In many cases the high achieving wife tends to either leave the house husband or have affairs with high achieving men.

grizzly1911

ILW wrote: »

In many cases the high achieving wife tends to either leave the house husband or have affairs with high achieving men.

Quite often the on same basis with the sexes reversed IME.

High achievement and income brings apparent invincibility, risk taking and the ability to hide and manipulate what you are doing for longer.

Generali

ILW wrote: »

In many cases the high achieving wife tends to either leave the house husband or have affairs with high achieving men.

Not necessarily.

Due to the nature of my career, I have worked with a lot of very high powered women (e.g. my current employers have 2 non-execs that are women plus the COO is female and she's my boss's boss so I know her quite well). Over the years I've known a fair few women who have SAH hubbies and in most cases it's worked very well. Generally it's been because the bloke doesn't give a flying fox about working and so is very happy to be given the opportunity to have a nice life without a job whereas she's been pretty driven.

I've never known a woman like that to hanker after a driven man. IME it's the alpha couples that split up because both want to be the boss.