Boss wants to contact doctor in regards to being off work HELP

Kittyrules

So I have been off work for two months since losing my son in October, I was on SMP leave before this

My doctor has now signed me off for another two weeks and given me anti depressants. My boss said she wanted to meet with me next week to discuss my progress and how I will come back to work. I had asked for a phased return when I went back depending on how the anti depressants work.
I said I felt it was too early for me to comment on my progress so she said she would meet with me in a few weeks but wants my permission to talk to my doctor to discuss how to support me back to work, sounds lovely but she is awful and has offered me no support before this, even when my son was sick.

I wanted to know what she can ask him?
Do I get to know what she asked?
If I let her contact this him this time does she have free access to contact him?

People have said I don't have to let her but I think this will cause more problems to be honest and I might be seen as not helping myself?

Thank you

getmore4less

Talk to the doctor about it.

Newwashingmachine

OMG no wonder the NHS is overworked no disrespect to you - but hasn't your doctor got enough to do without speaking to people's bosses.

anamenottaken

Kittyrules wrote: »

So I have been off work for two months since losing my son in October, I was on SMP leave before this

My doctor has now signed me off for another two weeks and given me anti depressants. My boss said she wanted to meet with me next week to discuss my progress and how I will come back to work. I had asked for a phased return when I went back depending on how the anti depressants work.
I said I felt it was too early for me to comment on my progress so she said she would meet with me in a few weeks but wants my permission to talk to my doctor to discuss how to support me back to work, sounds lovely but she is awful and has offered me no support before this, even when my son was sick.

I wanted to know what she can ask him? She can ask what she likes - but he need answer only what he wants to and . . ..
Do I get to know what she asked? You can allow him to write rather than speak and therefore see his answers before they are issued and refuse to allow him to do so if you want.
If I let her contact this him this time does she have free access to contact him? No - you place a time limit on access and method.

People have said I don't have to let her but I think this will cause more problems to be honest and I might be seen as not helping myself?

Thank you

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BJV

Newwashingmachine wrote: »

OMG no wonder the NHS is overworked no disrespect to you - but hasn't your doctor got enough to do without speaking to people's bosses.

NHS Money and resources wise, surely this is what the NHS is for?

To coin a phrase OMG ! The NHS is there to help with overall health. It will cost us the tax payers a lot less money if we can this the OP get the help and support they need to get back to work, rather than let her go back too early or without support and then have major brake down issues.

Prevention is always better and less expensive than cure!

That is forgetting the fact that the OP lost her son. As a parent I hope and pray never to find out how that feels and can not and do not even want to even for one second imagine what you are going through.

Dear OP, I would go to your doctor. It could be a sign that your cow of an employer is trying to help?

Honestly hope that you are feeling better, it is easy for me to say but be strong and just take each day one at a time.

Kittyrules

Thank you
I wasn't sure if you could only ask how to help me get back to work as that is what she told me?
I will call him on Monday, he has been very supportive thankful as there is sadly very little support out there in this matter.

Thank you BJV

cr1mson

Not job related but have you tried TCF http://www.tcf.org.uk/ for support? My friend sadly lost her son and she found that they were a lifesaver for her. It gave her space to talk with people who had an understanding of what she was going through having lost a child themselves.

Hugs

C

AP007

Kittyrules wrote: »

Thank you
I wasn't sure if you could only ask how to help me get back to work as that is what she told me?
I will call him on Monday, he has been very supportive thankful as there is sadly very little support out there in this matter.

Thank you BJV

If your doctor gets a request for a letter to send to your boss they will call you in to get your consent first as they can not write back unless they do so plus they will charge for the letter anything from £25 or so upwards

benny123

I wouldn't worry about this happening as i believe that for reasons of confidentiality , your doctor will not be prepared to discuss you with anyone .

AP007

benny123 wrote: »

I wouldn't worry about this happening as i believe that for reasons of confidentiality , your doctor will not be prepared to discuss you with anyone .

That may be the case but you have to give approval for them to write the letter and if you don't the co may wonder why.

elsien

It is standard practice in my company to ask for GP access when people have been off sick for a certain length of time. This is so that when we refer to occupational health to get advice on phased return, reasonable adjustments etc they have the relevant information to work with. Just so as you know it's not necessarily a bad thing. We ask the person's permission verbally, then follow it up with a written consent form so that everyone knows where they stand.