FINALLY DONE IT: Tayforth's new beginning

lostinrates

Alpha58 wrote: »

Sorry peeps, need to step in here and jump on this one HARD. Unless the gentleman concerned is an expert in either surveillance, counter surveillance or miniaturised electronics, or has the will and the money to pay an expert in these things, there is next to no chance that this is at all a concern. Tayforth has enough stress at the moment without nonsensical "Mission Impossible" type conjecture. And in the 0.00001% chance the he had done it, it would be running from a battery source so would not last long (unless tapped into mains power, unlikely and easy to find), what is she doing that is remotely suspicious? I very much doubt there is anything to see! So please, well intentioned though it may be - really not worth upsetting Tayforth with this sort of stuff!

We are a CCTV and recording device household. I am always aware how very rare this is.

Otoh, I am always surprised how many real life friends tell me about tracing software for computers or tracking stuff on mobile phones....neither of which ever cross my radar in my personal life.

Tray forth, I agree its remarkably unlikely. It's easy to get terribly paranoid about the 'unusual' things while pretty cavalier about the 'normal' but dangerous ones. We ALL do it. .

I like the new thread title.

zzzLazyDaisy

Yay!!! Loving the new title!

msb5262

Tayforth, your new title says it all - you sound about a million times more confident in yourself. This thread has been amazing; we've seen you emerge and turn into a beautiful butterfly...it is honestly an inspiring thing to witness. You are such a strong, brave person but you don't feel you have to put others down. Fantastic!
MsB xx

Alpha58

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Tayforth's new beginning

Very nicely done - love it!

tayforth

I'm home. Left work early as I wasn't feeling great. I've developed a horrible stomach ache, am going to rest up this evening and not attempt the brisk walk that I'd promised myself. Tomorrow maybe.

Hezzawithkids

You rest up Tay. As others have already said the tension is going to release itself in all kinds of ways so listen to your body and take the time to heal, mentally and physically.

<<<Big hugs>>>

tayforth

lostinrates wrote: »

We are a CCTV and recording device household. I am always aware how very rare this is.

Otoh, I am always surprised how many real life friends tell me about tracing software for computers or tracking stuff on mobile phones....neither of which ever cross my radar in my personal life.

Tray forth, I agree its remarkably unlikely. It's easy to get terribly paranoid about the 'unusual' things while pretty cavalier about the 'normal' but dangerous ones. We ALL do it. .

I like the new thread title.

Thanks lostinrates. I'm currently running Malwarebytes, let's see what it comes up with.

msb5262 wrote: »

Tayforth, your new title says it all - you sound about a million times more confident in yourself. This thread has been amazing; we've seen you emerge and turn into a beautiful butterfly...it is honestly an inspiring thing to witness. You are such a strong, brave person but you don't feel you have to put others down. Fantastic!
MsB xx

What a lovely post msb5262, you're always so kind. :A I love the butterfly analogy! xxxx

Hezzawithkids wrote: »

You rest up Tay. As others have already said the tension is going to release itself in all kinds of ways so listen to your body and take the time to heal, mentally and physically.

<<<Big hugs>>>

Thank you, and I will. I was trying to be strong until after the wedding, but it looks as if my body has other ideas.

Still laughing at your Ding Dong thread title, was so tempted!!! :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

tayforth

I've booked a hire car for the weekend, am also going to buy damage waiver insurance so no excess to pay if anything happens to it (have been stung before). That's that sorted out. No need to rely on my own car ever being returned

bagpussbear

Sorry to hear your body is struggling a little Tay. It's just stress, your body is releasing and harmonising emotions at the moment and it takes its toll.

I had a period of weird ailments a few months after ex walked out of me and I had to sell the house and move into a rented flat, the stress suddenly caused an uncontrollable twitch in my eye, and my irritable bowel syndrome came on really bad, where the cramps got so bad that by the time I got home from work I had to lay down, I had zero social life because of that. But the weird thing was that once the house sale went through, within 24 hours my twitch just stopped and never came back. And my IBS went away within a week. Its almost like relief of it all being over, cutting all ties with the ex that everything 'righted' itself.

Obviously go to the docs if you are worried about your rash or your tum, but I just wanted to tell you of my weird body experiences when I split up, and they will get better, and I think part of the healing will start after the weekend is over with.

zzzLazyDaisy

Hezzawithkids wrote: »

You rest up Tay. As others have already said the tension is going to release itself in all kinds of ways so listen to your body and take the time to heal, mentally and physically.

<<<Big hugs>>>

This ^^^^

When you are going through the whole shebang your body gets flooded with adrenaline. It keeps you going long after your body should have taken a break to relax/eat/sleep. As the pressure eases off the adrenaline surge slows down/stops.

Two things can happen... your body can react to the loss of adrenaline by demanding rest and sleep in any way it can get it, so you need to cosset your body and rest and sleep a lot, because if you are likely to be vulnerable to picking up bugs which will force you to slow down (high adrenaline levels over a period of time can adversely affect your immune system), the other thing that can happen is that because adrenaline can be addictive, your body starts craving its next 'fix' - this is often when people return to abusive relationships, or reopen contact with the abuser, or pick an argument with someone else. If either or both of those things happen, you need to breathe and roll with it. Your body will re-adjust to running on a lower, more normal level of adrenaline.

Hopefully neither will happen and you'll be right as rain in no time, but it doesn't hurt to be forewarned.

x