Wedding reception thank you etiquette

Chomeur

Is it normal to write a thank you letter after attending a wedding and reception? In a sense you are doing the bride and groom a favour in attending their wedding, but also they (or their parents) are doing you a favour in inviting you to the reception afterwards. I'm never quite sure what is normal etiquette.

And since I was invited by the bride's parents, I should thank them, but I only have the bride's address, and her parents live abroad, so I suppose I should just write to her asking her to thank her parents on my behalf. I have her email address too so could email her but I think that's too informal.

I googled this but all I found was advice for the bride and groom sending out thank you letters.

Thanks.

Valli

It's not usual - but it is a most courteous thing to do. On occasion I have sent a thank you after I have been invited somewhere.

I beleive it used to be common in times past, though.

There's some information here which may be of interest. See the paragraph Thank yous after an event.

LEJC

i dont think its an expected thing to do...but in honesty if someone had written to me and thanked me for the day I would have been over the moon...and likewise it would have made my mums day to receive such a lovely gesture....

What a lovely idea....

lika_86

I would tend to think that the fact that I'm turning up with a present and card is enough, especially as weddings generally put guests to a fair degree of expense anyway. I always text them after to say it was amazing and congratulations though.

tommyhaynes96

I agree with Valli. It's not usual thing you do, but it is the most courteous thing to do.

zanuda

I'm so rubbish in writing any sort of card/letters, that I don't really know if texting/calling is enough (no problem with texting - everybody knows that texts suppose to be short)... So, Valli, thanks for the link. Will meditate on it .