erm will think of one later

Lozzy88

My partner has 3 children with his ex and is currently paying around £350 a month for them, I don't work, my partner is about to lose his job so we will have to go on to jsa.

He is applying for jobs don't get me wrong but so far no good.

So I thought I should really get a job, so my local newsagents is looking for tempory staff to cover maternity leave, I know its NMW for 38 hours a week, and I have applyed and have interview next week so fingers crossed.

Will the csa people be able to take money off me for their children?

kevin137

No, but notify them of HIS change as soon as possible.

Lozzy88

Thank you we have sent them via recorded delivery (or what ever its called now) letters of his end date and the letters of his employer.

Is there anyway that csa could take money from my wages (if i get this job or any job) just £350 is a huge amount of money to lose a month, his ex relys soley on benefits and I know its really not enough.

I do relise that they couldnt take as much as what she's used to getting but something is better then nothing.

My partner hasn't seen his children in nearly 4 years and it really worries me that we have no way of letting her know that this is going to happen.

kevin137

If your partner claims JSA then they will deduct £5 a week... That is what he will legally have to pay, but if you choose to pay anything then it is on your terms and at your discretion, and nothing to do with the CSA.

It may be that you prefer to buy them stuff, clothes school equipment instead of handing over money, that would be your choice not his ex's...

Is there anyway you can contact her or the children to let them know...???

Lozzy88

I would love to still be buying them things, we have been seeing legal people, everytime they find her to try and get a contact order she moves our legal man ( I think he's as solicitor but I can't remember could be a lawyer but I imagine that to be american, I have no idea why) calls her a floater lol which reminded me of something else entirely.

We did have regular contact with her mother she sent us pictures and updates but once her daughter found out it was her who was giving us her contact details she has had to stop all contact with us or she would of cut her mother off also, which is totally understandable, I have emailed and text and wrote to the various email addresses and actual address and phone numbers, but so far have had no reply.

I dread to think of her one morning checking the bank and there not being food/clothes/petrol/general carp money not being there.

The kids are under 11 so a bit young for social media sites at the moment but we did look, I am sure the younger 2 might not even know who he is.

kevin137

Well if you have done all you can, then don't feel guilty about it...

If she is really desperate, then she will have to apply for a social loan (do they still exist) or come to her senses and talk to your partner...! But it is not for you to stress about, she will have lots of options available to her.

shegirl

The CSA will let her know in advance once they've done what they need to.

Also would like to add how nice it is to see that there are some thoughtful nrpps out there who think about the kids and their mother and worry about them losing money (as opposed to those who are selfish and want the kids and ex to not get a penny so they can have everything they want).Good for you

Lozzy88

Thank you very much Kevin, its a bad situation to be in and I know we are not the only ones and I guess we have done all we can really, thank you for clearing up about the csa wages thing too.

My partner will have to up the anti with the job serch :-)

Thanks again.

shegirl

kevin137 wrote: »

Well if you have done all you can, then don't feel guilty about it...

If she is really desperate, then she will have to apply for a social loan (do they still exist) or come to her senses and talk to your partner...! But it is not for you to stress about, she will have lots of options available to her.

I believe social fund loans of all kinds have been stopped this month in the normal regard and are now in the hands of local councils which will manage and award differently..

Either way,even so they don't make up for the loss of monthly income for the kids,not that the father is at fault in this case,it can't be helped.

Maybe it will give her a kick to contact the father!It would be rather sad if that would do it though

Lozzy88

Thank you shegirl, its really good to know that she will at least get a letter to let her know the situation, I shall tell my partner when he comes home from work it has already put my mind at ease :-)
With all the benefit changes and council changes I just know she is going to be so much worse off.

It would be lovely if it gave her the nudge to contact my partner he would be over the moon but I won't hold my breath.

kevin137

To be fair, if you haven't had any contact for 4 years things may of changed a whole heap.

You get to keep all CSA now even if on benefits, but she may well be working as well... So the best you can do is try not to stress, could you contact the childrens grandmother to see if she will pass a message on about the circumstances so that she will hear it from somewhere else as well...? Just an idea.

If not, then just live your life and do the best you can... Don't think you can do anymore.