She's Done It to me Again!!

elvis_bloggs

Dark chocolate is especially harmful to dogs.

mah_jong

savvy wrote:

Errr don't think she could beat my mother!! :rolleyes:

Just remember we all turn into our mothers!!!!!! LOL

My daughter probably thinks I am tight....I read these jpages after all.!!!!!

Ma

Malestrom

mah_jong wrote:

Just remember we all turn into our mothers!!!!!! LOL

God, I hope not....so does my wife!!

SnowyOwl_2

Yeah, mothers mean well but sometimes they impose their ideas, their fears and their solutions to their own life's disappointments on their kids. The latest for me is that I want to go back to England to live (am from N.Ireland and lived independent of my family in England for most of my adult life, I returned here last year but am finding it v.difficult to settle back in). My mother informs me that if I leave I will be disinherited. Mmm nice! My choices are to hang around until my parents die then go, or to leave when I want anyway and be disinherited. I am going to leave anyway in about a year to go to uni, and a year will let me get some debts out of the way. The first option is quite nasty and I'm not that much of a selfish cow. Besides I don't want to be manipulated in that way as it is nobody's life other than mine. She has never understood why anyone would ever want to leave where they come from - her words are driven by fear of the unknown. I don't understand why she thinks it is OK to blackmail me in order to get her way. She won't listen to anything I say even when I point out that I lived in England and fully understand exactly what I would be going to and she doesn't. Oh big sighs...

Lyndsay_21

no my mil is just bleagh!!
I mean she's not short of a bob (she's loaded) i know it not about money but my Oh is an only child so our 2 kiddies are her ONLY grandchildren yet on our oldests 1st birthday she said she'd bought her a seesaw/rocking horse so anyway when she came down and gave it to us she proudly stated "it only cost me a fiver from a car boot sale" like it was the best bargin she'd ever bought!! and when i had the youngest she said "i've bought him some vests" when she came down they where second hand from a car boot. and what did she get baby for xmas..... a big fat nothing " i didn't know what to get him" ermm how hard is it to ask or go into mothercare etc and find an age appropriate toy!!!!! GRRRR

I'm not saying she should've spent the earth as my parents didn't spend a lot of money but it was her only granchilds 1st birthday, and i'm not against 2nd hand clothes in fact i regularly buy kids stuff from ebay. It just annoys me because OH's dad (they're divorced) has much less money yet bothers to put time and effort in finding out what we want for the kids or actually spending time to buy something.
And dont even get me started on the fact she forgot OH's birthday, he rang up to find out where his card was "oh i forgot i'll send it tomorrow" he said dont bother, i mean how can you forget your only child's birhtday its not like she's old, or senile she's only 50!!
Actually i'm lying the money thing does !!!!!! me off she can have the money to go on 4 holidays a year yet she cant put her hand in her pocket to buy her grandkids some new presents i mean its only twice a year (xmas and b'days!)!!!

I think i 'd better stop now before i explode! rant over.

MrsMW

My mother was so tight that when I got married she bought us a reconditioned toaster from the market and had tears in her eyes when she gave us it (unwrapped of course).

Lyndsay_21

i know how you feel it just makes you want to scream

savvy

LMAO................Snowyowl, Lyndsay and MrsMW, I can TOTALLY relate to you guys and MORE!!!

I've always vowed to never turn out like my mother, and so far I've done a damn good job! My kids will come to me as they feel comfortable, not run away and stay away like me and my brother have done!

I wouldn't chuck my kids out on the street and leave their stuff in the front garden, then deny that it ever happened years later. Nor would I take their pet and give it away whilst they're at work!! I would never attack them or their friends and I'd never tell them massive lies that affected them for years!! I will not lay massive guilt trips on them every time they come to see me! And I'd certainly never put them down and humiliate in front of strangers that mean nothing to me, just so that I could try and impress those people! :mad:

If in the future my kids are stuck financially or need anything, I will at least try my darndest to help them anyway I can..................unlike my mother!

mink35

savvy wrote:

I wouldn't chuck my kids out on the street and leave their stuff in the front garden, then deny that it ever happened years later.

Not nice! My mil did this to my hubby - well almost - she packed his stuff up in a box and left it outside. When he came home she told him to come and live with me! I was 21 and living in a rented house with my younger sister (another story...) and had been seeing him for all of two months!

She totally denies it all now :rolleyes:

Actually get on quite well with her nowadays!