Feeling abit down today

krustylouise

Hi all,

Yet another moaning post from me - I'm really sorry. I just feel quite down today and that's quite rare for me. I did have depression with DD was younger but luckily got through that and am very wary/scared/anxious when I feel down in case I'm slipping back into it.

I work full time and have a 5yr old daughter and literally have no support. My mum passed away when I was 18 I don't have anything to do with my dad older sister or older brother. DD's dad doesn't help out much, he was made redundant just before Christmas and has been on a downward spiral ever since, bad company and doesn't seem to have time for DD.

I feel like I'm treading water payin off debts and working and trying to be a good Mummy to my daughter, but today I just feel spent, none of my friends live near me and all have their own issues to deal with so felt the only place I could "vent" was here really - I hope you don't mind.

On the plus side I made twinks hobnobs this morning - man that recipe produces alot! And they taste yummy!

Anyway hope you're all having a lovely Saturday morning and thank you for reading x

Mummy_Dfw

Hi krustylouise

Just quick note to say "keep ur chin up", life can be hard and cruel sometimes but keep going it will get better.

Focus on the relationship with your daughter, get out in the fresh air and run around with her playing games, it will cheer you up!

Take care and smile (it will trick your brain into thinking ur happy! ) x

krustylouise

Thank you for your quick reply - it is greatly appreciated! It's piddling down here so probably an in house day today, this too is probably affecting the way I feel x

kittiej

Hi Louise

Post away all you want

You are obviously doing fantastically well so give yourself a big pat on the back :T:T

You will inspire your daughter to be independent and resourceful, you should be very proud of all you have achieved :j

YORKSHIRELASS

I have so much admiration for single parents (hope that doesnt sound patronising cos I dont mean it that way!). Even with a husband to help being a Mum is not easy.

I had a real moment the other day when I went into Asda for something and there were loads of clothes and shoes reduced. I couldnt even justify spending £5 on something and for some reason it made me feel really miserable.

I think its OK to feel fed up sometimes, so long as tomorrow is a better day. And its good to offload on here because no-one really knows you and you can say what you want! Take care.

fallen121

Twinks hobnobs. Mmmm. Spread the love. Any chance you could post the recipe?

jo91

Hi Louise
Didn't want to read this and not add some support. I'm a single working mum of 2 with very little support, so can understand some of where you are at. Little by little you will get there. Some days are bl@@dy hard, but tomorrow is another day, and hopefully you will feel a bit brighter.
Some good suggestions posted here already - sometimes a bit of fresh air, although it doesn't change where things are up to, can change your mood a little and lift your viewpoint.
Great comment from kittiej too - you are managing and in doing so are demonstrating a great example to your DD. I now take pride in my daughters as they go to high school in that they see it as entirely possible to be a self-reliant woman who can deal with lots of stuff that life throws at her. You are doing just that. Hold your head high and appreciate the relationship you have with your daughter and what you are achieving in caring for her.

Vent all you like, I have been there myself

krustylouise

Thank you kittiej - that's very nice of you I'm always harsh on myself doesn't matter what I do it's never good enough, do you ever get like that? x

krustylouise

Thank you yorkshirelass, I don't think you're being patronising, and I appreciate your message. Yes it's often restrictions like that that annoy/upset me too, but you're right tomorrow's another day and hopefully a better one x

krustylouise

Recipe for hob nobs;

8oz marg, 1tbsp syrup, 1tbsp hot water 1tsp of bic soda, melt together then pour over 8oz sr flour, 8oz oats and 8oz caster sugar. Make into balls flatten with the back of a fork and bake on 180c for 15mins (please forgive me if I typed it wrong it's from memory)

krustylouise

Thank you so much jo, for your comment. It is hard and often unrewarding (especially financially) but you're right in the fact that it will pay off in the future where my daughter is concerned and setting an example for her. I hope things are well for you x