Wedding Card Etiquette?

tanith

Just a few quick questions.. my niece is getting married this week and we have already given them a gift towards their honeymoon... thing is I was just going to write out a Wedding day card and am not sure when or how to give it... should I -:

1. Send the card to the home they already share ?
2. Take it with me to the wedding and give it there?
3. Address it to Mr & Mrs xxxxx?
4. Or to Jack & Jill?

OH says I should take it to the wedding but as we will not be taking a gift it doesn't see right... look forward to your suggestions thanks....

iceicebaby

The invite to the wedding normally comes from the bride's parents so I wouls send the card there.

Don't know if thats the correct etiquette though!

Doozergirl

Take the card to the wedding. It doesn't really matter who you address it to but I suppose Mr & Mrs would be apt.

There's normally a table for everyone to put their gifts on and you can just put the card with that. Don't worry about not having a present attached; We had plenty of cards with vouchers etc in, and tbh, it's what I do now so they can choose exactly what they want from their list.

tanith

Thanks for that I think I will take it to the wedding but now I need a bigger handbag to put it in whilst at the ceremony :rotfl:

Doozergirl

Fold it up

Though I'm not sure I could resist the excuse for a new handbag!

bloomin_freezing

personally i'd take it with me,
i will be doing that next month. i will leave a gft at their house a week before the wedding but take the card to leave on the day.

i too have a small handbag to take more for show than use, so i will put my daughters nappies and wipes in a 'gift bag' to carry around so it doesn't look odd.

ben500

Take the card refer to the gift in the card job done.

Lillibet_2

Take the card to the ceremony (leave it in the car? until the reception when it should be handed over. It is bad form to take the gift into the church/ceremony so I would say the same applies to a card unless you can tuck it away in a pocket or handbag) & address it to Mr & Mrs X using the new name(s). If the bride is keeping her maiden name then address it to Mr X & Mrs Y.

HTH;)

spoilt_BUT_appreciate_it

ben500 wrote: »

Take the card refer to the gift in the card job done.

Yeah I do that, as not everyone is organised with writing down who gave them what whilst the presents are being unwrapped... I even refer to the present brought in birthday cards when my DD goes to a school friends party.

Also it's nice for the girl/lady/woman to see an envelope addressed in her new name Mr. & Mrs. Joe Bloggs

Then you have to remind yourself that you are that person and no it's not for your partners mum (Your now mother in-law)

liney

Yes, i looked at my MiL when the photographer called for Mrs X.. and booked a taxi in my maiden name. Oops.

I would address card to Mr and Mrs J Smith, and leave it on the gift table at the reception.

Wedding invite acceptance cards are traditionally sent to the brides parents, but nowdays with the invites increasingly comming from the bride and groom as they are paying for their own wedding, it is important to check who is actually doing the inviting and send there.

halia

check if she is keeping her own name and then address it to:
Mr Jo X and Mrs Mary X (or Y) on the envelope and Jo & Mary inside
Take it to the reception (not ceremony) in a gift bag and write a note wishing them well and hoping the enjoy/have enjoyed the present.