Saying I owe him money - fake letter?

poppasmurf_bewdley

pvt wrote: »

Poppasmurf,

I really don't think it's a good idea for the OP to send a letter to that effect. Opening an unnecessary dialogue will be of no benefit to the OP. Remember that statute barring only means the debt cannot be pursued through court, it doesn't mean the debt doesn't exist.

Nothing will frustrate the efforts of the OP's ex more than simply not engaging in dialogue. The only recourse the ex would then have is to issue court proceedings. They can be defended better if the OP has kept her powder dry until she sees what evidence, if any, her ex is providing to substantiate his claim.

If she was being harassed by phone calls then it would be a different matter, but letters? Just collect the confetti.

I would disagree. If this man has started this, then he needs to be shut up. Being silent will make him think "I've got her worried" whilst a short letter saying what I outlined would shoot him down immediately.

It is for the OP to decide for herself which way to play it. She is the one who knows this bloke. Once she sent a short letter, then she needs do nothing else unless he tries to take the matter further, in which case she needs to seek advice from a solicitor.

Kayalana99

poppasmurf_bewdley wrote: »

I would disagree. If this man has started this, then he needs to be shut up. Being silent will make him think "I've got her worried" whilst a short letter saying what I outlined would shoot him down immediately.

It is for the OP to decide for herself which way to play it. She is the one who knows this bloke. Once she sent a short letter, then she needs do nothing else unless he tries to take the matter further, in which case she needs to seek advice from a solicitor.

Because I have been in this situation with an Ex before, its not just a 'simple letter' because that letter gets a reply & an argurment and more threats.

The best thing is to ignore but save all evidence and go to the police if he carrys on. My Ex stalked me for months with us arguing him calling me 20 times a day untill I answared the phone and told him to stop n he'd still carry on. After 7 years if this guy is still doing this kind of thing I am guessing a letter is just going to open a door for more commication!

Don't talk to him thiers no point, no letters, no emails, no phone calls. Save everything, and don't threaten with police go in thier. They will go to his house and give him a 'warning' to leave you alone and then if he contines you can file for harresment.

Luckily mine finally stopped after that police visits but 7 years? God.

sgtivypie

Thanks for all the advice everyone. I think I'll just keep it and ignore it as when we first broke up even the slightest contact would set him off harrassing me again. I might go to the Police to log a complaint so that if anything happens in future at least they have a clear record of when it first started and what's been happening.
I think he's heard that my Grandparents passed away recently and he knows that they were quite well off so he's probably hoping that he can somehow get me to pay him to go away or something like that.
I was just worried that I could find myself stood in court having to explain how all this is completely made up.

spacey2012

A solicitor will issue a warning for causing Alarm and distress for the nominal fee.
You can ask the solicitor to point out that once a person has been warned that Their behavoiur is causing Alarm and distress should the action persist or be repeated the police guidlines are that they should be arrested and charged.
If they have no previous warning the police guidelines are to issue a warning .
As the letter constitutes a written warning any further action will result in an arrest and charge.

pvt

spacey2012 wrote: »

A solicitor will issue a warning for causing Alarm and distress for the nominal fee.
You can ask the solicitor to point out that once a person has been warned that Their behavoiur is causing Alarm and distress should the action persist or be repeated the police guidlines are that they should be arrested and charged.
If they have no previous warning the police guidelines are to issue a warning .
As the letter constitutes a written warning any further action will result in an arrest and charge.

Erm, so if anyone writes to me about anything, and I simply respond saying "you're causing me alarm and distress", when they dare write to me again I can get PC Plod to trot round and slap some cuffs on them?

What if it's the police who write to me, and I write them back one of these incredible "alarm and distress" letters? Can I get them to arrest themselves the next time they dare to put pen to paper?

I suspect it is just a teeny weeny little bit more complicated than you've suggested.