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sharon4adam

my ex went on my mortgage 3 hours away from where he worked. he could only stay at weekends and two months later wanted to sell up or force me to move and rent out. on top of this he was horrible to me. dumping me and telling me it was up to us not me. after it being my family home i was upset to loose it. id taken it on with a friend but she moved out when she met her bf.

anyway we broke up early last year. at first he said we would pay the mortgage for a year or two and hed let me take over or wed sell. he took his stuff and stuff for house hed paid for. he paid for washer and fridge but said originally i coould keep them.

i met someone else who i am now very serious with. when my ex found out he wanted of the mortgage straight away and wouldnt even allow me to get a lodger and save for fees etc so he could stop paying.

ive done everything hes asked and i have someone to go on the mortgage with ne who i trust and he has the paperwork to sign. he was rushing it along and constantly sending texts asking when hed have the paperwork.

he wrote a letter to rbs and signed it saying remove my name four months ago. he now has solicitors paperwork. hes had it for 3 weeks and he wont sign it. he asked for proof of council tax as he wanted to know if id had anyone living here. ive showed it 11 days ago. he claimed my solicitor advised it. she hadnt and i told him this. he denied that hed said this.i then.asked are you signing it and he didnt text back.

my solicitor said theres enough evidence he wanted to come off so he can not force anything else. it could go to court but as i have someone to take over with me he cant force a sale. a threat hes made alot.

just wandered has anyone experienced these issues. we wernt married. i dont want sarky answers so only fair comments please. thanks

sharon4adam

p.s we also agreed he could miss one payment of the mortgage as he kicked of about his fridge and washer. he agreed hed sign paperwork in this case. amd hes now mossed two payments and not signed.

Thrugelmir

Suggest that you sit tight. Do not respond directly to your ex. Only through your solicitor when the neccessity arrives. Even consider changing your phone number .

Is your ex looking for a payoff?

Thrugelmir

Keep paying the mortgage. Make a record of doing so.

sharon4adam

well he didnt say he wanted a pay off so he signed to be removed. after just a year of being on it and nothings been paid of it accept three grand on the 3.5 years ive had it, what would he be entitled too? he has a spending problsem and my parents lent him 3 grand that he has paid back. but hes racked his debt back up since then kept buying cheap flooring and ripped out a couple of my carpets. he replaced a light or too but nothing major just odd bits. i paid the 11 grand deposit.

Thrugelmir

Kick him out. Change the locks.

sharon4adam

yeah hes living 3 hours away.