help - taken a new job but had the chance of a week away?

alyth

Huge dilemma and would welcome anyone's advice. I'm a temp PA and am thoroughly sick of running about after everyone, so have secured a permanent job as a hotel receptionist/events organiser - good job, good location, good money. Start at the beginning of June. I've booked a trip to Chin for the end of August where I'll be away for 2 weeks, and they were fine with that. However, we've been given the chance of a cottage in france at the end of June for a week. The problem is that OH and I get so little time together, he's always travelling away abroad, and I've just rung the hotel to run past the idea of me being able to go to France, and the guy just said straight away it wouldn't look very good, which I can totally appreciate, it doesn't look good. But OH is going to go nuts, and he's desperate for a break away, we're supposed to be going away with friends and it's taken weeks of to-ing and fro-ing and trying to work dates round his trips abroad. The week in France was cancelled until a couple of days ago when the owners of the cottage came up with some more dates for us, and there's only a window of one week now when we can go - the week in June! I'm going to China on my own and it's all paid for, so I can't cancel that, and don't want to. Anyone got any advice at all? We can't go away later in the year due to OH's travels again.

ohreally

A holiday at the expense of a new well paid job, I'm not sure what your dilemma is?

alyth

spending time with my partner who I don't get to spend much time with versus a job that whilst is good and pays well, there will no doubt be similar jobs. That's my dilemma!

gingerdad

alyth wrote: »

spending time with my partner who I don't get to spend much time with versus a job that whilst is good and pays well, there will no doubt be similar jobs. That's my dilemma!

I think you've made your mind up. as an employer i wouldn't be happy for you to through a 2nd holiday so close the first one. and as hotels tend to busy at that time of the year, a number of hotels don't let staff take holidays in the summer months.

so take the holiday and risk loosing the job.

LittleVoice

If OH travels so much, wouldn't he like time at home instead of yet another trip away. Perhaps you could make plans to spend every evening doing something really memorable together in the week that you would have been in France.

TrikerAndBiker

Surely there would also be the question of how much holiday you are entitled to with this new company and if they have any limits on when it can be taken?

I'm with gingerdad on this one. This would probably be a busy time of the year for a hotel and they have already allowed you 2 weeks in August.

Anyway hope the new job goes well

Oldernotwiser

A week in a cottage in France is hardly the opportunity of a lifetime! If your OH is away so much because of his job then he'll understand about work responsibilities and the fact that, sometimes, these need to come first. Why should your career come second to his, particularly as you've been so unhappy as a temp. As LV says, wouldn't he like a quiet time at home if he's away so much?

bestpud

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

A week in a cottage in France is hardly the opportunity of a lifetime! If your OH is away so much because of his job then he'll understand about work responsibilities and the fact that, sometimes, these need to come first. Why should your career come second to his, particularly as you've been so unhappy as a temp. As LV says, wouldn't he like a quiet time at home if he's away so much?

Exactly! If he loves you that much, will he really want to think of you doing jobs you hate, for the sake of one week? I know my oh wouldn't expect me to do that, especially if it was his job that kept us apart in the first place.

If you are that sick of the jobs you have been doing, you would have to be mad to give it up for a week in France! That would mean trading months/years of unhappiness and frustration, for one week's enjoyment. Personally, I would be thinking a bit longer-term.

Bestpud

alyth

hi, thanks for your replies. Been thinking about this all day, and have had a brief chat with OH as his parents are staying here and we don't have much quality time together just now!

OH absolutely does not want to stay at home on his own, he was at home today and worked a lot of today, even on the rare occasions when we do get a break away the laptop and blackberry come to, that's the nature of his work and I'm used to it - that's why this week away was quite important to us! There's also another couple involved and I know they will be disappointed. But OH was fine about it, said just do whatever I feel is right. As I haven't actually got the contract of employment yet perhaps I've shot myself in the foot anyway, and OH pointed out I'm supposed to be going to Las Vegas with him in November (I have to attend work events with him sometimes) which I'd forgotten about!

My job is just that, not a career but a job to fill in time as he's away so much, I'd just perhaps thought that I could do something other than what I was doing, unfortunately as I have commitments I have to do because of his job. Oh well, I'll have to wait and see as the new company absolutely understandably weren't impressed, and I wouldn't at all be surprised if they change their mind and withdraw the job offer. I've 4 weeks left of this contract and OH is away for nearly 3 of those weeks, so loads of time to think!

Oldernotwiser

alyth wrote: »

My job is just that, not a career but a job to fill in time as he's away so much,!

What century are you living in? You'll be saying next that you do it for pin money!

alyth

Older, that's exactly what I work for lol! We have a great life together, he works extremely hard, earns a fantastic wage and I work for money for food and whatever else I want and it's a very traditional relationship in that sense. But it works for us and we're happy in our relationship, he just wants me being happy in whatever I'm doing, and I'm was fed up organising everyone else and then coming home and doing the same all over again, and was looking for a change, hence the new (or probably not any longer) job!