4 weeks to go!!!! Need help/advice please!!

emylou

So we have 4 weeks to go until our big day but I am sick with worry about things and can't believe time has gone so fast!?
When we set our date we were also trying to get pregnant so I wanted to be married sooner rather than later; now feeling silly as wedding day is almost here & I'm not pregnant & probably far too stressed to actuallu conceive at this current time anyway lol!!!
I am paying for most of the wedding (I earn almost double what OH earns and I already had savings, he has contributed but it's quite unequal & he's rubbish at budgeting/saving etc) We discussed this last night, I told him how I feel & he said I'd made him feel guilty for not contributing as much but it wasn't my intention- I just don't want to feel resentment in years to come that I paid for the majority of our day?!
We also have an issue as at the beginning of the plasn I wanted him to use an independent tailor but he insisted on going to a "nationwide" company that I didn't think were much good (their attitude when we went in. their reputation etc)....well it looks like I may have been right!? He went in on Saturday (yes I know, I know 4 weeks before!!!) & has been told they have discontinued the waistcoats we wanted, they didn't appear to measure everyone properly (didn't measure the inside leg of one of the party & then OH tells me his Dad's suit looked like he was wearing baggy trousers that the "youth" wear?! We have already paid over £300 deposit & now I don't know what to do?! OH says they haven't fulfilled their side of the contract (providing suits etc) but I think they'll say we left things too late?! Even if we do go with someone else I'm not sure we'll get the suits in time?!

Thanks for reading, this is more a rant than anything I guess, just needed to get it out. (feeling physically sick now tho )

blondy24

Emylou - I know how you feel with being stressed out and feeling sick like. We got married at the start of this month and a month before the wedding some things did go wrong. The nationwide fitters usually tell you to go in and get measured about 6 weeks prior to wedding, they do not measure you exactly, I remember my dad was just looked at for the size and it did fit him on the day. Why not go to another of their stores nearby or go in on another day and see if you get served by someone else? You have to remember that things will not be perfect but it is your's and OH's happiness that is important.

Try not to worry about getting pregnant at the moment as weddings are definitely stressful enough. Are you going anywhere nice on honeymoon? If so they say that when you are away that things could happen due to being less stressed and relaxed/happy.

I am sure most other people on here who have got married can advice that it is a stressful time however you need to focus on the meaning of it and just deal with the other things as best you can. In the end at ours we didn't have a best man, one less bridesmaid, drunk people that kept up awake till 4am the next day but on the day you don't notice any mistakes you just enjoy the day, and it goes by soooo quickly! Already wishing we could have the day back.

McKneff

You really need to chill out and stop trying to control everything.

I cant understand why you feel silly, not being pregnant when you are getting married?????

Stop talking about how much you are paying and how much he is paying. Thats what marriage is all about, give and take what you can.

heartbreak_star

Agreed. Deep breath, nice cuppa, calm down.

Formal complaint to the suit place. Tell them to pull their finger out. With regards to money, if you want to pay and you're both happy with that, let it lie.

I'd wait till all this is over and you're relaxed before trying to conceive again. Good luck

HBS x

Scotsbride

As your OH has pointed out they've not forfilled the contract. I would talk to them and if you still don't get anywhere then write a formal letter of conplaint. as for using independant fitter it's possible like you your OH is worried about how much things are costing. deep breath things do go wrong with the planning all bride will tell you that! those that don't are either lucky or lying! with me my hubby descide he did actually want a wedding ring the monday before we were married and the photographer cancelled with 3 weeks togo! I can tell you this speaking from the other side it doesn't matter as long as you say I do and love each other that all that counts. learn to let things go you will both have a fantastic day learn to relax so you can enjoy it