unfair dismissal - how to proceed

melancholly

dmg24 wrote: »

I've been in this position, and in hindsight, it was very naive and foolish. But I was young, and we all know how blinded we can become by 'love'.

I ended up reaching a compromise agreement with my employer, who more than anything didn't want the bad press.

Could I ask how long the woman has been employed by the company, and what official reason was given for her dismissal?

been there 2/3 years, and as far as i'm aware no official reason has been given as it hasn't been put in writing. sounds like the MD's wife threw a fit (and i don't blame her!) and one of the conditions of taking him back was to get her out of the office (and i don't blame the wife for that either!).

melancholly

right - i have to now go back to work myself. i don't live with OH (not married, just feels like it sometimes ). i'm not going to be financially responsible for him (after my rent and bills i couldn't be!), and he has some savings so it wouldn't be an immediate disaster.

it's just no matter how much i understand what he's doing, and how much i also want to help her out, i have this knot in my stomach........

spoke to him on the phone (they're at the CAB) and told him not to get too involved and it didn't go down well. i told him he could quite happily quit but that he should get another job first..... but if he gets into this too much then he won't have a choice in it all!

i feel sick.........i can't do anything and now i have to go back to mine and just wait for a few hours to hear what's happened........ having had very little sleep last night because of this isn't helping me right now!

dmg24

No, I don't blame the wife at all, and it is a situation I deeply regretted being in. I imagine this lady feels the same, or will do when reality hits home.

But nonetheless, the woman does have rights, and good on your husband for sticking by her. I do hope he doesn't quit his job solely on account of this, as others have said, it isn't his problem.

Let us know what happens after CAB, and what reason she gets for her dismissal x

melancholly

thanks everyone - after a little panic and cry earlier, i'm feeling a lot more sane now!

no real news - no drop in appts left at the CAB, but have names for legal advice. also got everyone looking on the acas website so that should help.

but things have calmed down a lot and just having some names of 'the right people' to talk to seems to have made a difference.


i now need some sleep - i really don't know i'd cope without this website sometimes!

dmg24

Glad things are a bit calmer ...

I wish I'd had this website when I was going through it! x

changkra

One thing to think about here as much as you disagree with with what your OH is doing he's obviously one of the good guys to want to help someone who has been unfairly treated. Thats not a bad trait in a guy, he's obviously a very caring person.

melancholly

changkra wrote: »

One thing to think about here as much as you disagree with with what your OH is doing he's obviously one of the good guys to want to help someone who has been unfairly treated. Thats not a bad trait in a guy, he's obviously a very caring person.

oh i know - that's why i love him! and he's doing something morally right - i just don't want him to end up in a bad position because of it. i'd prefer all decisions to be made after the waters have calmed down a bit!