Child now living abroad. CSA still threatening

wayne0

i thought that if a PWC said they didnt want it collecting that is the only time they can ask for it to be collected, once they dont want it collecting, thats it. its not collectable...

blokeandbird

No parental responsibility and no access order. The last time I saw him he was 2. Went through solicitors etc but unfortunately she let me see him when it was convenient for her. She caused no end of trouble for me and my family and police were always called because of her threats/criminal damage etc. in the end I'm sad to say I gave up.

I have only stopped paying from July 2012 so arrears are recent.

Been advised today by csa that the only thing I can do is pay arrears and re-instate payments until it is sorted out so looks like that's the only way to go as I can't see the ex doing anything to help the situation

wayne0

you can request the csa hold your payments until she contacts them... cant you? (kevin... am i right in this?)

im sure you already sent that letter to the CSA and your MP stating that she has left the country, and therefore Legislation states the CSA can no longer collect?

to be fair i understand how you feel. i "gave up" for a short while - left it in the hands of the solicitor (still sent txts to ask how son was - with no reply) - took xmas and bday pressies down. both times looked at with disgust and told "hes asleep! you cant see him"... "well thats fine, I've brought his presents down."

TBF. I really dont understand why you would give up entirely for over two years. but thats another thing... - you really cant give up on your kids though... they need you (not only a mother, but a father too! - just think how your kid will feel... the mother telling him "daddy did a runner" - hes gonna think "why didnt daddy want me"... etc)

Even if the child is abroad now, its never too late to get access... (might make things harder... but surely worth the effort...) you know WHERE they are by the looks of it... so shouldnt be so difficault as some people are...

kevin137

I was resident in Norway for 3 years while still working in the UK, and i could not even get them to accept my address as being abroad despite having a UK employer and UK wage and still paying...!

They even managed to goto court, be TOLD by the judge to change there paperwork, it was ORDERED in fact, i left the country permanently, they managed to find arrears more off, and chased for a liability order using a UK address to obtain it, as they could not use a Norwegian address on the paperwork, failed to notify, and THEN closed the case writing to me in Norway to notify me just 24 hours after the LO was obtained... It is literally dated the following days...!!!

But in answer to your question, not sure you can ask them to hold payments, but you could ask for a query to be raised that requests a reply to confirm address i guess. Not sure it would do much good...

pulpfictionlover

ok i live in Australia and u cant get help from the government unless u file for CHILD SUPPORT.
Even if i went of government help my ex would still be charged child support (not that he has ever paid a cent or sent birthday cards or xmas cards).
If u have contacted Child Support and let them know she has left the country ,Child Support would conntact her to verify what u are saying is true (maybe she hasnt left).
If they cannot physically contact her, Their next step would be gettin a affidavit from someone who has known the pair of yous to verify she is no longer in the country(but u need to find out if she does leave state or the country if u still have to pay maintenance)
I dont understand what the real problem is of paying money to your ex to help your child as it does take 2 people to make a baby.
I personally would not have let it go for a month of no contact with Child Support and to stop payment is the worse thing to do.