Guy in trouble who I helped out finacially now threatening me !

arushofblood

Last year... met a guy and had a brief relationship with him. He went on about how he'd lost out on an inheritance after he'd spent out at college and so was now unemployed and declared as bankrupt. He was at the time we met trying to set up his own bookshop. Me being me helped him out as much as I could and when asked to help him financially, did so as much as I could. Yep, you guessed it... after handing over a total of £750 quid, the relationship was suddenly off and I was told to 'fcuk off and die'. The business has since folded too.

A year later on... I have every so often emailed to ask for my money back. The replies are always the same. He hasn't got the money, that I was foolish enough to give it to him, threatening my Ebay business if I persue him... just now the reply has been that 'there will be immediate repurcussions' if I reply to his refusal to pay up.

This guy is regularly buying and selling on Ebay ! I can see how much he is spending and making ! I know as well that he has just been successful in getting a full time job with live in accommodation !!

My question is... Is it common for people who owe others money to act in this way or was I just unlucky to meet a conman ?

Optimist

Sorry to say you have met one of lifes total a*se holes. I made a similar mistake a long time ago with a young lady I was enamoured with. She got out of debt and then found a new boyfriend. I moved one and put it down to experience and vowed never again. Good luck but don't mope about it.

Hobsch

I think as mentioned in the post above you have just happened to stumble across one of lifes complete Tosspots.

I know if anyone helped me out, and a few people have, that when I have the money they will get it back. And when I am debt free if I can help any of them in any way I certainly will.

I think when you owe money you can sometimes get annoyed when you are chased and some people get aggressive or upset but no excuses for him.

I would give up - for now. What goes around comes around - he'll get what he deserves at some point.

lynzpower

Id set up a load of fake ebay accounts and stuff his business up good and proper.

But then I can be quite mean spirited when aggrieved.

joeblack066

I have an ex from last year behaving in much the same way. He spent a load on my debit card online gambling, !!!!!! lines, stole £750 from me and ran up a huge (£769) bill on a mobile in my name (more !!!!!!!). He went from 'lost the plot' texts (pretending to be someone else!) to threatening. I told the police. They paid him a visit. Threats are illegal. Didn't get me my money back but I will neva get it anyway, and I wanted to show him that its not acceptable to behave that way. Cut your losses, remind yourself that YOU are capable of recouping that £750, whereas the a*sehole of an ex is not!! Good luck!

LookingAhead

arushofblood: Gosh I'm so sorry you had to meet this waste of skin.

It's really really really annoying to have to accept that you've been conned and I'm sure you're thinking of all sorts of ways you'd like to get him back for this.

But to save yourself a lot of future pain, stress and who knows what from this apparent psycho, I'd say stand down.

£750 is a lot of money and I am sure it hurts like hell. Once bitten twice shy though - you won't fall for it or anything like it again I'm sure.

Really sorry for you.

debtmonster

couple of thoughts

could you pursue him for the debt through the courts, you have e-mails where he is admitting he owes you the money ?

Dont know if this is classed as evidence or not.


Second point if he is buying and selling through e-bay and "making plenty" then as far as the taxman is concerned he is carrying on a trade, should be registered and should be paying tax.

Report him