At what age do CSA payments stop?

shoe*diva79

Evangeline1971 wrote: »

Thanks everyone, my son will be 18 next week which is another reason all this is getting to me as now I cannot afford to give him anything substantial. The arrears are just under £300 and came about because of a number of unexpected expenses including having money fraudulently taken from my account (still waiting for bank to refund this). I don't begrudge giving the money to my son and would make more effort to if he wasn't with his father. I've just had to buy clothes for my other son who is 20 and neglected by his father. Its all this added together which means I've missed a couple of payments

Sadly if he is with his father or anybody else, your still financially responsible for him, so need to ensure you make 100% effort. You mentioed you hadnt seen him for 2 years so how do you know he is on drugs and drinking?

Your son thats 20 I assume is working or a uni student? So should have salary or student loan to keep clothed, fed etc? Or if neither then on JSA? Really, at 20 he should be clothing himself. Your 17 year old is, in the eyes of the law, still a child so if you cant pay ou CM at the moment you will be raking up more arrears and the CSA will do a DEO to your wage, which can be up to 40% of your earnings.

shoe*diva79

kevin137 wrote: »

And if he has any sense, he will appreciate that you have no money, but it sounds like he is being manipulated and led astray by a father that does not put his best interest 1st. Just be thankful that it is only 2 years left and not 12 years...

Try not to stress, it is just not worth it... The end is in sight now... And once done, then you make the choices yourself, and watch how quick the "meal ticket" is pushed out of the home...

Kevin, how childish of you to write this! The OP has said she hasnt seen her child in 2 years, so your opinion bears no weight. How exactly is the child being manipulated? Led astray - possibly if he is drug taking and drinking (but again, how does the OP know this is she hasnt seen her child for so long?!)

You do make me chuckle sometimes LOL

kevin137

Childish...? I don't get how...?

The OP is worried that she has no money to treat her son for his 18th regardless of her situation and the fact that the child has not seen her for 2 years.

I know exactly how manipulative parents can be on both sides, and being a good father does not mean allowing a child to smoke pot/weed and drink at that age...! What it means is that a child will choose a parent because it is easy and he can do what he wants that does not make it right...! And you call me childish for my comment...? I guess we are all entitled to opinions... And mine is exactly what it is..!!! The child is not being looked after, he is being deprived of an upbringing..!!!

shoe*diva79

Hardly, he is about to turn 18 so is a grown up in all intents and purposes.

Again, the OP hasn't seen the 'child' in so long, how does she KNOW what her son is up to. For all the OP knows he could be a straight A student at college.

OP - your best bet is to find out if your son is still in education and then you will know if CM is still payable. Ad maybe look at rebuilding your relationship with your son. Life is to short...

Evangeline1971

Please don't argue because of my posts, I really don't like to see people having a go at each other on here I havent seen my son but I hear bits of what's going on from my mum and my other son. It's my belief that my son isn't being properly cared for but he made his choice to live with his father so now must accept the consequences. I'm sure he'll regret his decision in the future but only time will tell.

I spoke to a supervisor at csa today and she agreed to extend my arrears over the next two years. Whilst I'm not happy about having to pay for another year at least this is a more acceptable offer than their previous demands so I've agreed to this.

Thanks again for your help.

kevin137

Don't stress about us arguing, we always have a difference of opinion... Just sometimes comes out in a way that new posters don't understand but that is what opinions are about...

Personally i like the comment "he is about to turn 18 so is a grown up in all intents and purposes"

Shame the government doesn't see it this way... haha

And glad you got it spread out, it doesn't help by way of you still have to pay it, but at least you get more time now so a little less stress...

shoe*diva79

Evangeline1971 wrote: »

Please don't argue because of my posts, I really don't like to see people having a go at each other on here I havent seen my son but I hear bits of what's going on from my mum and my other son. It's my belief that my son isn't being properly cared for but he made his choice to live with his father so now must accept the consequences. I'm sure he'll regret his decision in the future but only time will tell.

I spoke to a supervisor at csa today and she agreed to extend my arrears over the next two years. Whilst I'm not happy about having to pay for another year at least this is a more acceptable offer than their previous demands so I've agreed to this.

Thanks again for your help.

If you have concerns about how your child is cared for maybe as his mother you need to be proactive in ensuring his wellbeing? You can use the courts to obtain a contact order or residency order altho your sons wishes at his age would be taken into consideration. Obviously I dont know the background but it surprises me that you think your son isnt properly cared for yet havent done anything about it in these last few years... And with his age you have more then likely left it far to late

Rest in the knowledge that YOU have been and will continue to support your son financially.