Why don't men do Christmas cards?

Old_Joe

Inspired by a post in another thread, and by my OH, I wondered why you men tend not to do Christmas cards/e-cards/emails specifically saying Merry Christmas or similar sentiment?
. . . So if you don't do Christmas cards, which includes e-cards and emails specifically saying Merry Christmas or similar sentiment, why not?

Haven't read any replying posts BUT. . . For over 50 years I've always written all our cards as indeed done all the Christmas cooking, so it's too easy to make generalisations.

Torry_Quine

bylromarha wrote: »

Another female who doesn't send them.

What IS the point?! I love my friends and family and they love me. Do I need an email or piece of cardboard telling me Merry Christmas from them?

The relatives who get grumpy as they never get cards from us - their problem, not mine. If all they have to worry about is who they get cards from at Cmas, then I wish I had their life where that was all they had to worry about.

As for keeping lists of who you get cards from...seriously?!

If I din't have a list of who to send cards to then I would without doubt forget someone and would then get one when its too late to send one. I have a proper Christmas card book and mark when I send and receive, its better than a piece of paper which is easily mislaid.

bylromarha

jap200 wrote: »

I do receive cards but find them more of an irritation than anything. Most are not only unpleasant pictures, but contain nothing more than the shop-printed words and a hand-written name or two - what is the point of that?

Don't forget the recent addition over the last few years - the "quirky" Christmas letter letting you know what amazing things the family have been up to over the year and/or a photo of the family.

Had 3 of those letters this year - 5 photos in addition to the letter of the growing kids of the family in question.

shegirl

I'm female and I very rarely do Christmas cards!!!

I feel obliged to this year only because I moved a few weeks ago and have had cards put through the door by my neighbours. It would feel rude not to give them cards aswell now

marleyboy

I do Christmas cards for my friends and work colleagues. However most of my mates will say "dont bother writing me a card as I don't do cards". Some feel somewhat obliged as a result and will write a card in reply, solely as a one off.

Cards are for close friends and family really, a simple "All the best" or "Merry Christmas" pat on the shoulder is enough for me and my male friends, there is no need for us to go running around like headless chickens passing cards to one another. We generally sit back and watch the girls franticly doing that with each other.

nickj_2

marleyboy wrote: »

I do Christmas cards for my friends and work colleagues. However most of my mates will say "dont bother writing me a card as I don't do cards". Some feel somewhat obliged as a result and will write a card in reply, solely as a one off.

Cards are for close friends and family really, a simple "All the best" or "Merry Christmas" pat on the shoulder is enough for me and my male friends, there is no need for us to go running around like headless chickens passing cards to one another. We generally sit back and watch the girls franticly doing that with each other.

merry christmas and all the best , mate:) (hope the smiley isn't too ott for you )

skintchick

Interesting. I'm the other way round. I always think its a bit pointless giving my OH a card because I see him on the day and will say it in person, but I like to give cards to people I don't see often or who I won't see on the day, so that they know ill be thinking of them.

Mr_Toad

January20 wrote: »

I am female and I don't do Christmas cards.

Today, I found one in my pigeon hole at work and all it said after the printed message was "from xxxx and family". There was nothing written on the envelope either. What is the point of that? The person who wrote it just felt they needed to write Christmas cards because "it's what you do, isn't it?" but in doing it this way, they made it a useless gesture and a little bit insulting too, ie "don't care enough to write your name on the card and the envelope, but hey here is a card!"

Christmas cards are a waste of money, a waste of time and a waste of precious resources as they will all most likely end up in the bin after Christmas (unless they are sent to me and they get recycled into gift tags the following year)

And the above is the proof that it's a minefield, that people, usually women, examine everything from the envelope to the pen used, over analyse and read far too much into them.

It didn't need anything written on the envelope, it was in *your* pigeon hole. Just like if someone pops a card through your letterbox, it's a pretty good indicator it's for the people who live there, writing the address or your name is completely superfluous. You could even say, to use your own words, that writing on the envelope was a "useless gesture".

You can almost imagine it. Whoever sent that card will be wondering what on earth the problem is. Why is he/she giving me the cold shoulder and ignoring me, what have I done or not done?