Why don't men do Christmas cards?

Tish_P

I don't give cards because I don't enjoy getting them. All they say to me is "you are still on my list of 150 names and addresses."

For the pre-Internet generation they were presumably a good way to make some you made at least some contact during the year, but I don't see the point today. And last I checked I'm a woman!

I suspect that if there's any tendency for men not to send them it's because sending them is a chore, and men do less chores for a whole heap of reasons.

System

I'm still waiting to see if my bf gets me an xmas card...

I've bought him one...that said i write him little notes and letters all the time so it made sense to get him one.

Bless, he had to rope his mum into helping him wrap my xmas pressies :eek:

Ettenna

I have gradually whittled the number of cards down over the years. I only send to very close friends and family. This year I am not sending any cards. I have had a crap year, starting with separation and ending with daughter in HDU. I have told everyone that I am not sending cards and will be giving a donation to either JDRF, Headway or the critical care unit that my daughter is in currently.

January20

I am female and I don't do Christmas cards.

Today, I found one in my pigeon hole at work and all it said after the printed message was "from xxxx and family". There was nothing written on the envelope either. What is the point of that? The person who wrote it just felt they needed to write Christmas cards because "it's what you do, isn't it?" but in doing it this way, they made it a useless gesture and a little bit insulting too, ie "don't care enough to write your name on the card and the envelope, but hey here is a card!"

Christmas cards are a waste of money, a waste of time and a waste of precious resources as they will all most likely end up in the bin after Christmas (unless they are sent to me and they get recycled into gift tags the following year)

BrandNewDay

I don't "get" this whole Christmas card thing. They're a much bigger deal in the UK than they are in America. Back there, you'd send them to people you didn't see every day. Like cousins and old university friends.

Over here, people seem to just give cards to everybody. People on our street to whom we never speak give us cards.

All it does is make me feel sort of guilty about not sending cards, myself. But, really, I think they're a waste of money.

I'd much rather get a pretty card out of the blue from a friend for no particular reason than to say Hello in April or June.

ETA: I'm female.

nickj_2

grumpybear wrote: »

What terrible sexism

I always do cards to family, friends collegues and neibours (even the one's im not mad about) it is Christmas after all!

I suspect if blokes don't its probably for five main reasons:

1) Its considered a women's job, as most of the cards I get from men tend to be written by their other halves

2) Its a multi-stage process, think abut cards, buy cards, write cards, find address; buy stamps, post cards - so a bit over complicated

3) Its a bit pointless - especially for people you see - or hardly remember

4) It rapidly become a bit of a palarva - sending cards to the people that sent you cards, who only sent you cards to avoid feeling guilty etc etc

4) Procrastination - By the time you think about it its too late to send any yourself

5) All the above

you're right , but keep it under your hat , we don't need everyone to know :T

phill99

I get cards from people I don't speak to or hear from for the whole year. Why. Why do people only think of me at Christmas? They evidently don't think of me for the rest of the year. Stop being so damn hypocritical. I'm not going to send them one.

You don't need to send someone a card to wish someone a happy Christmas.

Torry_Quine

I not only send cards but make them and like to think that the extra effort taken is appreciated but after reading some of the comments on here, I'm not so sure!

My husband on the other hand gets one for me and that's it but his hand-writing is atrocious. :rotfl:

Tish_P

Hand made cards are different - they're more like gifts! I appreciate those, and ones friends' children have drawn. But very few cards are like that. Most don't show any personal interest or connection at all and seem to me to be sent out of obligation rather than festive spirit.

I do send birthday cards because they go out one at a time so I can put some thought into each, and pick a card the recipient would like.

bylromarha

Another female who doesn't send them.

What IS the point?! I love my friends and family and they love me. Do I need an email or piece of cardboard telling me Merry Christmas from them?

The relatives who get grumpy as they never get cards from us - their problem, not mine. If all they have to worry about is who they get cards from at Cmas, then I wish I had their life where that was all they had to worry about.

As for keeping lists of who you get cards from...seriously?!