Grandmother's Will

loulou39

Hi, I need some advice. My gran die suddenly only to find out that my 2 cousins by adoptions inherited my grans wedding ring and engagement ring. Where as myself and my other cousin got nothing in jewellery all because of my aunt and uncle (2 cousins mum and dad). The will was mad in 1997 when my other uncle was alive but he tragically died 8 years later so the will was never changed apparently. I just want to know if there is anything I can do as i'm the oldest grandaughter.

pollypenny

Presumably that's want your gran wanted to happen to her rings.

We're the cousins close to her? The fact that they were adopted is irrelevant.

Flugelhorn

the will would be accepted as your grandmother's wishes, she must have had a reason to do that - and it would be unfair to change it.

chucknorris

pollypenny wrote: »

Presumably that's want your gran wanted to happen to her rings.

We're the cousins close to her? The fact that they were adopted is irrelevant.

I'm guessing that what she (gran) actually wanted was for the rings to go to her uncle (not the cousins), but due to the death of the uncle they are now going to the cousins.

If it is a case of sentimental value, couldn't the OP simply offer to buy them for more than the market value from the cousins, then eveyone's happy.

Mojisola

chucknorris wrote: »

I'm guessing that what she (gran) actually wanted was for the rings to go to her uncle (not the cousins), but due to the death of the uncle they are now going to the cousins.

If it is a case of sentimental value, couldn't the OP simply offer to buy them for more than the market value from the cousins, then eveyone's happy.

But the uncle would probably have handed them on to his children when he died, anyway. Loulou - Is it because they were adopted that you're upset?

The cousins may be willing to sell them but they may also be thrilled to have the rings for sentimental reasons.

Did your Gran have any other jewellery? I'm sharing my mother's bits and pieces between the family.

I was given some jewellery that belonged to my Grandmothers - nothing valuable but lovely momentoes of them.

McKneff

Being the oldest grandaughter is irrelevant.

If your gran stated that that's where she wanted the rings to go then respect the fact that her last wishes were carried out. Gran would have been aware that that is where her rings would end up.

Is there any other jewellery or personal item to your gran that you and your cousin could have as a memento.

Other than that, you just have to accept it and move on.

or is it the value that you are thinking of.

loulou39

The value of the rings have nothing to do with the issue. It's mainly due to my uncle and aunt being nasty about it. My cousins didn't have much to do with my gran. However my Uncle and Aunt made sure my gran didn't change her will even though she wanted too as my dad was ready to take her to the lawyers but they stepped in and stopped my dad (her son) from going.

chucknorris

Mojisola wrote: »

But the uncle would probably have handed them on to his children when he died, anyway. Loulou - Is it because they were adopted that you're upset?

The cousins may be willing to sell them but they may also be thrilled to have the rings for sentimental reasons.

Did your Gran have any other jewellery? I'm sharing my mother's bits and pieces between the family.

I was given some jewellery that belonged to my Grandmothers - nothing valuable but lovely momentoes of them.

Doesn't matter, what matters is what the gran would have wanted had she known that the uncle was dead. The whole point is that it was an old will that was never updated!

If it was me I would just offer 20 times what the rings are worth (if I really wanted them).

Mojisola

chucknorris wrote: »

Doesn't matter, what matters is what the gran would have wanted had she known that the uncle was dead.

This doesn't matter, legally.

The whole point is that it was an old will that was never updated!

This is the only thing that matters. What's in the will is what must be complied with.

It can be very difficult for older family members if their children are squabbling about their inheritance. If she had felt very strongly, she could have found a way to speak to a solicitor. She could even have given the rings away before she died.

McKneff

loulou39 wrote: »

The value of the rings have nothing to do with the issue. It's mainly due to my uncle and aunt being nasty about it. My cousins didn't have much to do with my gran. However my Uncle and Aunt made sure my gran didn't change her will even though she wanted too as my dad was ready to take her to the lawyers but they stepped in and stopped my dad (her son) from going.

You aunt couldnt have stopped your gran changing her will, this is what your gran wanted, you must accept that and move on.

If your gran wanted she could have had a lawyer visit her at home. Your aunt didnt have her locked in her house like a prisoner so she could have done it at any time.

Stop being bitter, it's really coming over in your posts, your gran would not have wanted all this. Move on and get on with your own life.