Calling all working ~<MaMMa's>~

dandelionclock30

He sounds very selfish and immature, OP have a serious think about kicking him out anyway. Last thing you want to do is give up your job to be pandering to this bone idle man.
You've got plenty going for you, why be saddled with such a waste of space?.

Sambucus_Nigra

*DaDa wrote: »

Oh and if I refuse to cook or have a cant be bothered night its "Takeout time" which ends up costing me more or he would just go and eat at his moms which would still mean I have to cook and clean for myself an kids;);)

Unbelieveable.

That you think it's worth 2 'smilie' winks.

pinkshoes

Sounds like he needs to stop burying his head in the sand and work as part of a couple. You're now the breadwinner, so he needs to do everything else, including cooking and cleaning!

My dad had a quadruple heart bypass aged 50, and had to give up work. He then took on the 'housewife' role and had to learn to cook, quite scary, as I remember his burning beans to begin with!

Just tell him to pull his weight and get on with it!

flashnazia

dandelionclock30 wrote: »

He sounds very selfish and immature, OP have a serious think about kicking him out anyway. Last thing you want to do is give up your job to be pandering to this bone idle man.
You've got plenty going for you, why be saddled with such a waste of space?.

Hold your horses! Kicking the father of her children out for being a bit lazy is a bit hasty!

gibson123

Is it just me!! if this was a SAHM having a moan that her husband expects her to do everything and just flakes out in front of the TV when he got home there would be hell to pay on this forum. Looking after 4 little kids including a baby and a toddler is HARD, and IMHO needs to be shared. i think if he manages to keep the kids healthy and happy, entertained and played with during the day, he is doing a good job, why don't you just cook and both of you tidy and do the bedtime routine. The big clean up can wait until the weekend.

*DaDa

gibson123 wrote: »

Is it just me!! if this was a SAHM having a moan that her husband expects her to do everything and just flakes out in front of the TV when he got home there would be hell to pay on this forum. Looking after 4 little kids including a baby and a toddler is HARD, and IMHO needs to be shared. i think if he manages to keep the kids healthy and happy, entertained and played with during the day, he is doing a good job, why don't you just cook and both of you tidy and do the bedtime routine. The big clean up can wait until the weekend.

Thanks for the replies guys Gibson123 u kind of got my point...Im not moaning that he doesn't pull his weight around I know its hard work looking after the kids feeding, cleaning school runs etc...What I was after is how to balance home/work I could batch cook on Sundays and do my ironing on a Sunday evening Big clean up say is Saturday along with shopping, laundry etc though I have to do the laundry almost every day after work..Where in between am I suppose to chill with my kids..Thats my problem I feel Im not spending anytime with my babies..Hence after some tips of how to manage time (Which I must admit Im not very good at:o)...The only time OHgoes out to socialise is a Saturday evening/night which I dont mind as this is this is the one thing he does since day1...I was wondering how other Working mums work around there chores,work and kids???

j.e.j.

you could maybe try the Old Style board for some ideas?

nearlyrich

My OH has developed superb cooking skills since he retired and I still work he likes to eat well and I'm not always there to cook so he has learned started simple and moved on to more complex dishes.

The other thing you could do is batch cook and show him how to make chilli, spag bol, curries etc and then he can do the next batch.
Cooking isn't hard it is just following a few steps to get from raw food to delicious dinner.

The fact that the OP says he helps out is a worry as he should be taking this responsibility not just helping out!

gibson123

*DaDa wrote: »

Thanks for the replies guys Gibson123 u kind of got my point...Im not moaning that he doesn't pull his weight around I know its hard work looking after the kids feeding, cleaning school runs etc...What I was after is how to balance home/work I could batch cook on Sundays and do my ironing on a Sunday evening Big clean up say is Saturday along with shopping, laundry etc though I have to do the laundry almost every day after work..Where in between am I suppose to chill with my kids..Thats my problem I feel Im not spending anytime with my babies..Hence after some tips of how to manage time (Which I must admit Im not very good at:o)...The only time OHgoes out to socialise is a Saturday evening/night which I dont mind as this is this is the one thing he does since day1...I was wondering how other Working mums work around there chores,work and kids???

Personally I let them slide if there is something more fun to do, it is not a disaster if the kids shirts aren't ironed or the floor isn't the cleanest. It is if there is no mum and kids time and you feel left out, you need to stop being clean freaks and just enjoy your family time.
Best time-saving tip, do everythign with less frequency - if you do the bathroom twoce a week, cut it down to once.

theoretica

Can't you get clothing that doesn't need ironing? I have the iron out less than once a year...