Proving you HAVEN'T lived somewhere for benefit purposes!

coffeelover65

This is just complete nonsense now.

If we asked about his birth certificate we'd probably be told his parents were hippies who didn't want to register the birth.

If we asked about his education we'd be told he was home schooled.

If we asked about his employment records he's probably a street busker.

if we asked about health records he's probably some survival expert who was raised by wolves and learnt to stitch himself up and splint broken bones.

What absolute nonsense.

pmlindyloo

Mmmmm... all beginning to sound a bit unbelievable I agree but just in case.....

Found this:

http://www.hmrc.gov.uk/manuals/ccmmanual/CCM15000.htm

Clicking just on one - 'Undisclosed partner has no other address' (grasping at straws????) looks interesting. Haven't had time to see if any of the others are pertinent to this.

shedboy94

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If he is not living there it's not his problem! It's the ex wife that needs to prove she lives alone!

Also just in case people didn't know, from April when RTI comes in which is the first step towards universal credit, your employer will submit your address with your payment details to HMRC monthly or weekly (or whenever you get paid) so anybody using somone elses address could have a problem or cause them a problem where UC is concerned.

clearingout

pmlindyloo wrote: »

It seems that it is going to be very difficult to prove.

However, my only suggestion is to look at this the other way round i.e. the partner has to prove that she was not living with him.

Whether this is possible I don't know.

She would need to show that she paid half the mortgage, all the utility bills, phone bills, council tax etc etc - hopefully all from her own account. He would have to show that he only paid his half of the mortgage from his own (hopefully) separate account and nothing else.

If she has informed any 'authorities' that her partner left then a written statement from the 'authorities' would add weight.

I am not sure whether this will be enough.

is this a fair approach? assuming we take the OP at face value, this is a relationship that has broken down and both parties have been, on the face of it, happy to allow post etc. to be delivered to one address because there was no obvious reason to them for it not to happen. I can buy this - just about.

In which case, the ex wife is now facing a hefty bill in tax credit back payment for something which to be fair they are both responsible for. The OP is not suggesting that there is anything untoward, rather, her partner has been a bit daft in the way he has approached separating.

On the other hand, my ex didn't bother telling anyone he'd moved out and I received mail for him right up until the house was sold some 18 months later. In all fairness, I couldn't make him change his address - but I did hand things over to him and ask him to change it which he obviously ignored. I have paperwork from the solicitor which shows that we were clearly separated so there is no concern for me should the HMRC ever come knocking on this issue but I can see how it can happen in a not necessarily malicious but more 'I'll do it next week' only next week never comes kind of way.

debrag

So no new job or credit in 8 years? No divorce in all this time. Is he paying anything other than mortgage at her address?

paddedjohn

OP, he's playing you like a fiddle, do you really believe he hasn't been living with his wife while he's been seeing you?

gingergee

PJ, think you said what we were all thinking..........................................x

Dunroamin

clearingout wrote: »

On the other hand, my ex didn't bother telling anyone he'd moved out and I received mail for him right up until the house was sold some 18 months later. In all fairness, I couldn't make him change his address - but I did hand things over to him and ask him to change it which he obviously ignored. I have paperwork from the solicitor which shows that we were clearly separated so there is no concern for me should the HMRC ever come knocking on this issue but I can see how it can happen in a not necessarily malicious but more 'I'll do it next week' only next week never comes kind of way.

Next week, next month people would understand, possibly even next year.

Eight years later - not so much.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

hum_lovely wrote: »

Hands in the air time - I am the 'new' girlfriend (of
almost two years). We have been on holiday together twice. He is not sure about the passport but I would guess it would have gone to wifey's address....and yes, we can both see exactly why you all think it's a wind up, we are seeing it as more and more unbelievable ourselves as your questions are making us consider the aspects. He is not a 'paper work' fan and thought it easier to leave as is as when address changed on one thing would need changing on another....

Have you actually personally checked with his wife that he hasn't been carrying on with you (and previous women) whilst still being a conventionally, paper traceable married man? So you haven't been the girlfriend, you've been the latest mistress?