stress at work

pureevil678

I am in a situation and i just dont know where to turn. I want to go to the doctors to talk about my problems but i am afraid he will just turn me away. over the past year i have had a lot to deal with and now i feel its all gotten too much.
I get harrassed at work by my manager
I have just been made homeless
My mother is severely depressed.

I feel i need a break from it all but dont know how to go about it. I am not a person that talks about my problems and i just dont know what to do. At the moment i feel i cant handle another problem or my head will explode.

I having trouble sleeping and have some awful nightmares, i either eat everything or nothing at all, i am covered in loads of rashes when it gets too much, i have a upset stomach all the time.

does anyone have any advice it would be greatly appreciated?

lisakay_2

It sounds like you're having a really though time of it right now. If you let it build up it could well lead to you suffering from depression as well as your mum. I would definitely go and see your doctor. If you write down exactly how overwhelmed you are feeling and take it with you, you may feel better about talking it through with them. Otherwise you may find yourself going in and not knowing where to start or what to say and come out having told them nothing.
I'm sure others will be along with more suggestions.
with love xx

Fruball

(((hugs)))

Your doctor will not turn you away. Go and see him/her and talk through how you feel and what has been going on.

It's horrible when everything goes wrong at once and you can't see a way out but well done for being brave and admitting you are struggling to cope.

Visit your gp x

Rainy-Days

First things first. Your GP should not turn you away. The very fact that you have rashes and are suffering from upset stomachs is a direct cause of the stress. The rashes will get worse and you could get shingles which is also linked with stress as well!! Is there a GP in your practice who is more sympathetic? If so get an appointment with them. Nearly all GP surgeries that I know of have counsellors linked to them and they will be able to refer you on for support.

The second issue is being made homeless and this links in with the first, if you don't see your GP then your GP won't be in a position to confirm to the council or a housing association that you need urgent housing. A GP is worth their weight in gold in situations like this.

With regard to the harassment at work, it may well be that things are even worse for you because your home life is pants. Once you take control of your situation then you should feel stronger.

The fact is at the moment everything for you is out of control. You have no automomy over anything in your life and that is compounding your stress levels into orbit. Once you make that appointment and speak with the council regarding your housing crisis then you will find things slowly coming back.

Would I suggest that you take some time off work through stress? I don't know what situation you are in with work, it could be that if there is redundancies doing the rounds you may be first in line. Whatever happens you need time out and being able to get your physical and mental strength back. Thats means seeing your GP.

BTW don't have any of those freaking anti depressants - you don't need those, you need constructive help and counselling.

mucky_moo

Hi.

Ive been in a similar situation except not made homeless. when i finally got the courage to talk to my gp (i too thought i would be sent away) i found her surprisingly surportive. Unfortunately i am at the point i need antidepresents or i wouldnt be here now.

Please go talk to your doc. Its the best thing i did. I now have counselling which is good.
If you get offered the tablets make sure you do some research first so you know what to expect. They have allowed me to get some control in my life by stopping me from over reacting(caused by stress &depression). They act differently for everyone but please make your own decision.

kittycatface

hi and thinking of you. definitely gp, its their job to support you with stress. Are you now living with mum? have you got somewhere safe to stay if not?

after going to gp i would approach your council and explain situation. most have drop ins for those who are homeless each day. again, take bit of paper to prompt you or a trusted person who you feel can prompt you if you get emotional. ask at reception to see a housing officer you dont have to explain why. If you are staying with friends or family downplay the stability of that situation otherwise the council will not class you as homeless just sofa surfing. sooner you approach council and fill in housing form the better as there can be long wait in our area its 4wks just for them to process the form. the council can find you b and b in the short term if appropriate.

once you know where you stand with safe housing the next issue to sort out is this awful harrassment situation. is there a line manager you can trust to go to and does your work have a harrassment policy if so get a copy and record in a little notebook each time/day an incident of harrassment takes place as the person may downplay it if you decide to report it, and under those circumstances the more proof the better.

i would divide the three issues you explained into small chunks work out what is a priority for each day and do what feels manageable for you in the timeframe you feel comfortable with. this can help with that busy brain feeling and dont forget to tell yourself well done for even getting out of bed with all this going off.

this forum is very supportive do keep posting if you need and in the absence of people looking out for you at work or home, dont forget there are people who have read your post on here and are thinking of you and will give you both practical advice and emotional support. xx