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3Dogs wrote: »

I have noted the various posts of relatives about to go into homes, or already in homes, and thought I would update you on my Mam

As most will know, she has been in a care home but in the NHS end-of-life unit since Novemer 2010 and they had been discussing her further need to be there or whether she should be in normal care home. They had a meeting, with my sister and brother present, together with her nurse and the unit Doctor, and it was agreed that she no longer needed to be on this unit and should be moved to care home. However, everyone agreed that she could not be moved to another home, as she was not strong enough for this, and so she would be moved into the normal care home part of the home. There are two rooms just at the entrance to the unit and the nurse/carers/doc all agreed that they would wait until one of these became vacant, so they could still keep an eye on her and it would be less upheaval for her. It was anticipated that it could be several months before she was moved as the home had to take in many extra residents when another local home was flooded out back in July and was short of beds

On 29th September, the manager of the home rang my sister to say they were going to move Mam downstairs that afternoon. My sister hit the roof at them doing it with such short notice, and that she was going downstairs, after what had been agreed, and the manager agreed to speak to my sis first so she went down earlier than normal for tea-time. When she got there, manager explained that Mam was top of the list for next room and that a room was available so she had to have it, asking if my Sis wanted to go down to see the room. A carer who was present said 'oh, she can't do that' to which the manager asked 'why?' to be told that the lady was still lying in the room the lady who had died and was awaiting undertakers taking her away :eek: My sister was astonished, but not surprised Manager also said that the money side of things had to be sorted out that day, but my Sis explained that I was away and so was my brother who dealt with Mam's finances, and that she couldn't speak to us till Monday. Manager said she would wait until Tuesday, but said that Mam had already been discharged so had to be moved as soon as possible. The nurse later told my Sister that the discharge papers had been placed in the file after the earlier meeting in preparation for her being moved, but had not yet been signed and dated :mad: :mad:

Come the Monday, my sister got to see the room and found that the bed was broken, and she told the manager that Mam was not going into that room until the bed was fixed or replaced. My Sis asked Mam's nurse about her nebuliser and was told no-one had thought of that and a new one would have to be ordered for her through the care home, rather than NHS. When my Sis got there on the Wednesday, the carers and nurses told her that there had been sparks flying that afternoon as the manager had tried to move Mam downstairs on her bed from her current NHS room and the Doctor had been there and told her she couldn't take it as it was an NHS bed. Carers said it was nearly world war 3 :eek: :eek: Anyway, Mam was taken back to her NHS room and Manager had to order a new bed, which she had not yet done :mad: and it should be there the next day (Friday) or Monday.

It actually arrived on Friday and Mam was moved to her new room in the afternoon. When my Sis got there, she discovered that there was no overbed-table which Mam needed to be able to feed herself. One of the senior carers had gone mad about this and that a patient had been moved without sorting everything out first. The answer they came up with was that a carer would feed Mam, which my Sister told the manager was a backward step for Mam. My sister had cheekily brough down the tv and a folding chair down from her old room, as there was no tv in her room either, or chair :mad:

Anyway, the good news is that Mam has actually settled in nicely and seems more relaxed, less agitated. One carer who had worked upstairs when Mam was up there, said that Mam had been a lot quieter since her move, more settled. She hasn't been shouting and getting agitated like she did upstairs. She does talk very loud, but the girls say that's all, and she didn't do her normal screaming when they showered her. I think I mentioned that she pulled faces when one of two certain carers came with her meals or to change her, etc, and said she didn't like them. They are both very loud when they speak, and I wondered if this had upset her ............. or if they didn't take 'as much care of her' as the others which is upsetting You just never know what goes on when you are not there. All I can say is that I really pity anyone going into some care homes, and hospitals, if they do not have family or friends to visit, who can keep an eye on things

It is apparent from the way the manager went on, that the only thing she was interested in was in getting a person into that room and getting payments in for them. After all, an empty room meant no income for that room. Sad, very sad While Mam was in the end-of-life unit, she kept on getting her pension and AA though this part stopped after 12 months, as the unit is part of the NHS so classed as being in hospital. As soon as she was moved, her pension, less £20'ish for 'pocket money', had to be paid to the home for her care, plus a £11 top-up, so my brother had to sort all that out

As I said, Mam does seem calmer there, so that is good My sister has asked me to look out at auctions/car boot for a chest of drawers and bedside cabinet as the ones in Mam's room are rather tatty, and the home will not replace them :mad:

Added: Sorry about the long post - once I start, I just can't stop

glad to hear your mum is settling better but its awfull the way they went about it have you put complaint in about it?
if not you need to as this is how this get fixed/made better (i like to think so)

i know what you mean about "i dread to think what goes on when your not there"
as i visited many for my family when we were helping nan decide what one to go to
i turned up unannounced every time and omg was i shocked on a few occasions
luckly we found an amazing care home who do so many things with her and other residents / they cook daily go for walks day trips to museums/ churces they even went to the beach in the summer . they have speackers come in and give talks and even have a proprer on site hair dresser

nan did have to give up her pension and we have to pay £30 extra per week. and my nan sold her house to help fund it ,

but every penny is worth it :Tjust to know shes safe and not dumped in front of tv like she dosnt exsist or even worse put in her room till meal times :eek::eek:

Iamsohappy

nikkilala wrote: »

Ok so the other day I mentioned to MrLala that I'd like to redecorate the dining room (Hope Nannylalas not reading, she likes my dining room:o) It was more a whimsical thought said out loud really, not really 100% sure I wanted to do it;)Anyway I'm working and Mrlala has been absent from the office all morning but has just walked in and presented me with a creme egg:cool:which he found under the sideboard in the dining room when he was moving the furniture out and stripping the paper off the walls:eek::eek::eek::eek: He's all proud of himself and I'm sitting here thinking why did I say it!!

Be careful what you ask for

Tinyshoes

nikkilala wrote: »

Cheap Fairy washing up liquid

Thanks to FAIRYMONSTAR on HDUK for this:
At A's
740ml Green Apple and Lime Blossom for 40p
650ml Original fairy 40p
740ml pomegranite and honey 40p

Looks like its global too, SEL says 40p

Thanks Nikki, I was not going to go shopping today. But my stash of fairy is diminishing so I am definitely tempted.

nikkilala_2

Iamsohappy wrote: »

Be careful what you ask for

My exact thoughts:o:o:o

Miss_Laid

3010 wrote: »

You know you want to. I'll see you there on the Sunday.

I will if I can get cheap tickets I'm too tight to pay £50+ for 2 tickets and parking

tyroleandancer

For those of you who didn't win a free box of Special K clusters earlier, try again
I have just won after being told no this morning.

3010

Miss_Laid wrote: »

I will if I can get cheap tickets I'm too tight to pay £50+ for 2 tickets and parking

I used clubcard vouchers.

neosi

couponqueen123 wrote: »

thats not the tesco mag its an offers leflet :rotfl::rotfl:

Which sometimes has coupons in, commonly known as Price Flop Coupons

streetlights

Good afternoon everybody, I hope the day is going well.

I popped to Mr S this morning and found hienz tomato ketchup with Indian spices 342g for 40p however on another shelf it was £1.60. I took the bottles to CS and had it price checked and they are 40p. CS said that the 40p bottles have a different bar code. code is 000157 071989 worth looking for if you are in larger Mr S

cookiecat14

tyroleandancer wrote: »

For those of you who didn't win a free box of Special K clusters earlier, try again
I have just won after being told no this morning.

where are you getting these from please